My boyfriend and I have dated now for 4 months. I have seemed to be aggressive and he says it doesn't bother him whenever I ask and acts like it bothers him that I ask if it bothers him. The thing is lately he has said no two different times in the past week about coming over that he would be busy doing chores. We were just together at his house last night and he took me out to eat at Chili's and was lovey dovey, huggy kissy, flirting alot with me, we made love last night and this morning, took a shower together, and he said I love you like 3 or 4 times. When we woke up this morning and I asked him what he was doing and if he'd like to come out tonight he said he would rather not because he had some things he needed to get done. I am just not use to him telling me no. Is he getting tired of me and maybe will be breaking up eventually? Is he hinting that I am coming on too strong and that he wants to do the asking? Am I worrying too much about it? Do I just need to let him ask?
2006-11-06 11:02:30 · 13 answers · asked by computergirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am exactly like you.
I think all this comes from insecurity. If he hasn't shown any other signs that he's losing interest, it could be that he really IS busy.
You need to remind yourself of the good things that happened recently. He's not neccesarily getting tired of you, he's just getting tired of being frequently asked if he is. My boyfriend broke up with me for that reason before. (We've been together for over a year.)
Try to avoid not being so pushy when it comes to having him reassure you. The Chili's thing is good enough until the next time you guys hang out. :P
Give his space. Believe or not, it'll bring you guys closer!
2006-11-06 11:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Gwyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe he is starting to feel a little crowded, give him a little more space to do things that he needs to get done. When he tells you he has something to do, you tell him "OK well just give me a call when you want to come over". If he calls you later on or the next day, you have nothing to worry about and you are reading into it to much. Now if he doesn't call you for 3-4 days then you have something to think about. You just need to key it back some, and not come off as so possesive, you may be scaring him.
2006-11-06 19:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by M&M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, stop asking him if you are coming on too strong. I'm sure he might find that annoying. Secondly, if he keeps making excuses to not see you or hang out he may be moving on. And sleeping with him wont stop him.
He may be going through some stuff and it really has nothing to do with you.
If the relationship as it is works for you then leave it alone. If it's not enough then move on yourself.
2006-11-06 19:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by No Way 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys and girls think differently. maybe he likes where you are in the relationship. don't read too much into it right now at least. if it keeps happening, i would ask just because the relationship could get awkward if this keeps up. if he really does care for you, he'll give you an answer. and if he doesn't want to talk, keep pushing, because no relationship is better than a disfunctional one that can cause both of you hurt.
2006-11-06 19:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by maria p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to control his every move and obsess about him, you will drive him away. He wants to be your bf, but not a siamese twin.
Cool it some, don't be too needy or clingy, it drives guys nuts.
You have to let him breathe.
In any relationship, you will hear "no." Men get a lot of practice early, and women get it, too. It is part of it.
2006-11-06 19:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, please...
Ladies, you all really need to stop reading so much into so little.
Just leave the poor guy alone already.
2006-11-06 19:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey .. i dont think you are..he probably really does have things to do .. if u think hes losing interest.. just let him go.. u be the one to do the deed.. dont let this affect you.. its prolly nuthin at all .. dont worry.. goodluck
2006-11-06 19:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by cp1_tequila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has stuff to do..like his own life..you can't be a part of everything..even men have to grocery shop once in a while...
2006-11-06 19:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by Dick Tater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well guys are weird like that they want you but when you want them they ignore you!(LOL)talk to you later
2006-11-06 19:06:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! quit it or hell dump you and you will be all alone
2006-11-06 19:05:08 · answer #10 · answered by Pretty me :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋