2006-11-06 10:59:27 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
looking at or watching porn is NO different than thinking or fantasizing about it. Can you stop him from thinking or fantasizing? unless he's watching some wickedly perverted material like tiny horses being raped by gorillas dressed as nuns (which I do not own!!) I wouldn't worry about it. visual erotica has been around for thousands of years, just ask hef!
2006-11-06 11:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Brian J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No its not cheating he was born with 2 hands and will die with 2 hands. Do you think its cheating when he urinates? no right well would you have a different answere if I asked if it were cheating for him to urinate while someone else held it for him besides you? yes but if he is alone it would be impossible for him to cheat. maybe the 2 of you should watch it together. if you did would that be considerded an orgy no because the 2 of you are the only ones there.
2006-11-06 11:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by DM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hides it because he feels he will be scolded or scorned if you found out. That is an issue you need to take care of right now, it is a major trust issue hiding things from your significant other. Or feeling the need to. If you lack the proper understanding to allow him to be himself, then it is your fault that he hides. But if you understand him an ask him about it, different story. Then he can be more open to as to why he does it. Pornography is a harmless for 99% of men and women, there are extreme cases of men and women who go overboard and break the law etc...but your boyfriend is not one of them. If cheating on you means he is aroused by other women and or masturbates, then you better stab his eyes out now....porno or not, men are visual, and so are women. The issue I would be more worried about is the hiding it bit...not the fact that he enjoys looking at women (that is genetic...no stopping that)
2006-11-06 11:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by buxiu_demon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watching porn is natural, I wouldnt consider it cheating, it is actually a way to maybe keep from cheating by way of finding variety without being unfaithful. Maybe he is just ashamed, tell him you know about it and try watching it with him so that it is not something he feels he has to hide,but something that you can share and enjoy together...it can really spice up your sex life. If you can not get into watching it then just tell him how it makes you feel and see if he is willing to stop watching it.
2006-11-06 11:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by Ash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not , he is not doing anything with anybody but himself , and for men it is a private thing. he may not tell you because he does not want you to think like you are thinking (that he is cheating) all men have a love for women , porn , going to the mall looking at them ,same as women , if you look at a man does that mean you are cheating ? keep a open mind and heart and talk to him let him know how you feel and if you do not like it in a nice way let him know this. but I have learned it is a guy thing
2006-11-06 11:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by asnowbird1961 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's hiding anything, he's being dishonest and deceitful, so that's not good.
As for porn.....Regularly indulging in sexual fantasy about other people, whether in one’s mind, through magazines or watching films, is a form of infidelity. You have made a commitment to be sexually monogamous with your partner, and you break it by deliberately focusing your sexual attention on someone else.
Intimacy is the shared experience of closeness and connection between two people. Porn destroys intimacy because, by definition, it introduces a third element into your relationship.
2006-11-06 11:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i do no longer see a difficulty with observing porn. i do no longer see it a cheating the two. you ought to get your groove on with a random chick yet % to try this mutually as observing porn. I certainly do no longer evaluate it cheating. yet first ask her what cheating potential to her. Does it recommend being bodily untrue with yet somebody else? Does it recommend deriving sexual delight from something different than her? i'm assuming it somewhat is the latter. Your companion's emotions count huge variety because of the fact it somewhat is who you chosen as a companion. the final public of human beings who watch porn, i might think of, do no longer think of it somewhat is cheating. in spite of the undeniable fact that, on account that your companion is the only guy or woman interior the international you appreciate and love the main, does no longer it somewhat is prudent to appreciate her emotions? If she believes porn is cheating and he or she catches you observing it or unearths evidence of you doing so, this would create tensions on your dating. She would see it as being as undesirable as adultery. it somewhat is not a stable view to have in a marriage. additionally, you could desire to evaluate what observing porn will do to her vanity. in case you watch porn, she would start to sense insufficient and much less beautiful on account which you're searching for sexual gratification without her. this might maximum possibly have a damaging effect on your intercourse existence which might advance the downward spiral and harm your dating extra.
2016-10-21 09:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not cheating...'real life' people aren't involved...porn is fantasy (and poor fantasy at best usually) but there's no communication there...it's all visual with no feedback from him...
That's not to say it may not bother you, especially if his viewing is excessive, but if he just likes to watch a dirty movie now and then and figures you don't like to...then no harm done.
Be glad that's how he's getting his kicks (unless, as I said above, it's excessive) instead of phone or internet sex...or actually fooling around with people offline...
2006-11-06 11:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, But I would ask him why he is hidding it from you. I would worry that in the future he would hide things like cheating for real.
2006-11-06 11:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by girlio33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. It is not cheating. Please don't be jealous of porn. Now, if it was another girl or guy (well, ya never know...), then I would be confronting him.
If he pays attention to the porn more than you, I would ask him about it. Maybe you could look at it together, but I am hoping you are both mature enuf to handle it and all.
2006-11-06 11:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋