Why do guys move on so quickly?

Question

why is that ur ex boyfriend moves on so quickly to sopmeone new when u havent even been broken up that long?

Answer 1

I don't know that either. My ex moved on real quick and we had been together for 11 yrs. I think that guys just aren't really emotional and don't get attached as much as girls do.

Answer 2

It is a illusion, men do not really get over women that quickly, but rather they fall into their own escape. A lot of men and women will escape reality so they do not have to deal with things, for men and women this means resuming normal life like nothing happened, getting a new girlfriend or boyfriend, going out to the same places and pretending everything is fine. People think and have an illusion this will fix things if they get right back in where they left off, in reality it takes a lot longer to get over someone and let it all go. Take care of yourself, just know that he is putting on a show. He did not forget that easily....

Answer 3

My ex left me because her feelings for me went away, and while I spent two years trying to move on, she dated other guys and forgot about me completely. Usually the pain isn't mutual after a breakup. She moved on quickly because she was already over me when she dumped me. I'm sorry that it happened to you, and I'll try to lend a hand. When I got dumped, I sat in the hole of darkness for a week or so, then crawled out and looked for some new things to do. The first gesture was symbolic. I cut all my hair off in mourning, just for the hell of it. I got a new job and worked a lot, and I bought a lot of used books and music. Mostly records, since I was broke as a joke. I wrote a lot of letters and revamped a lot of dying friendships. And chiefly, I broke contact with my ex. Boom, out of my life. That helped a lot. It's all about you now, not him, so if you don't want to be pulled back by a painful heart-wrenching "friendship," make it clear as crystal that you aren't interested. See what I'm saying? Do whatever you need to do to move on, and don't be talked out of it. Take no prisoners, and if a bridge looks good to burn, burn the ****** down. Good luck!

Answer 4

i dunno much either. what i know is that men rarely face their own emotions, and a good way not to face them is to move on quickly to a daliance. It doesn't necessarily involve emotion, just welcoming arms, mothering, or just plain release.

Men come to a point where they learn to face up with their emotions when their sons reach the same age the fathers started or peaked at this kind of behavior. Hopefully, men's cycle of repetitive behaviors such as this, comes to a slowdown, not necessarily a halt.

Men just have a very different understanding of love & relationships. Men's roles in competitive society, not in church, not in families, not among couples, define their roles within relationships. Men's present roles as against other men, that is the only thing which defines the way men view their relationships.

And that's why guys move on so quickly . . . the long and short of it.

Answer 5

You can't clump all men into one group, because of difference
in personalites. I have known men that were totally devistated
by a break up. Other men never got attached to begin with,
so they can just move on. Men and women are different and
you can't control that. All you can do is control your own
feelings. Explore your feelings for a short period of time
then move on, because life is too short to be upset over
a man. Another thing...always do what is in your own
best interests and protect yourself, because the man you
are with will be doing the same.

Answer 6

Well iam a guy and I have been there done that, so here you go,, we are pigs!! We look for the girls who is better looking and might bw willing to put out or is willing to try new things. Not that you won't but maybe you would not with that person. Get back in the game and find someone better, I know you can,,have fun and play hard.

Answer 7

Some people move on quickly because they weren't that emotionally involved in their past relationship anyway...others do it to ease their pain by getting with someone else who will care about them (and/or have sex with them) so they won't have to think about the loss of their previous partner.

Answer 8

Some don't feel like they are a man without a woman. To cover feelings of inadequacey, particularly after a break-up they try to prove they "still have it" by jumping right into something else.

Answer 9

well, i think it depends on a few things. number 1: who broke up with who because if he dumped you, he was already ready to move on. if you dumped him, then he's just a jerk with no sentimental value. number 2: he could have already had someone that he was doubling with. and last, number 3: i guess it depends on the kind of guy...you know, the good ones will wait a bit of time to move on.

Answer 10

Their is no reason to dwell in the past. When it's over, then it's over. Since I can't do anything about i just move on. At leats that's my point of view