sometimes i scream uncontrollably at my children, like spontaneously. anyone know what may help with this?

Question

I am not under any stress, and they aren't doing anything to require any demeaning yelling or anything, I just seem to start in on them for no apparent reason and I feel horrible, would like to be able to control it, any ideas?

Answer 1

1. Consider having a medical evaluation, if this is a change in behavior for you. It could be a medical problem, such as fluctuating blood sugar, or changing hormone levels.
2. Try relaxation therapy. There are many excellent sites on line that will give you exercise sheets to print out. Do a Search on Stress Reduction.
3. Do slow, deep breathing exercises, 5 minutes at a time, several times a day to help you relax and maintain your composure.
4. You are not alone! Consider a group such as Parents Anonymous to give you some support and advice from others with similar problems.
5. Do you have time, alone or with friends, out of your home and away from the children? If not, try to build some into your schedule. Try trading baby-sitting time with a friend.
Best of luck. Try to maintain hope and a sense of humor.

Answer 2

My first thought is to wonder what your own childhood was like. Haha, everyone who lives long enough eventually sees part of their parents pop out of them. The point is that you may be replicating some form of what you grew up experiencing without realizing it.

The other scenario that comes to mind is whether there is some other personal pursuit that you'd be doing if you weren't caring for your children. On some subconscious level, you may be blaming them for taking something away from you.

There probably are many other possibilities. The thing I really want to say is that you are verbally abusing your children, and it has to be incredibly confusing to them. They are kids so on some level they are blaming themselves for your behavior. They are also learning that there is no such thing as stability, continuity, or trust. What you are doing may leave lasting life consequences for them to contend. In other words, this is a very big deal.

If you love your children, swallow your pride and find a therapist that can help you figure out what the cause of your behavior is. You need to deal with it in ways other than taking it out on your kids. It's great that you recognize there's a problem. Now, go take positive steps to resolve it. All the best to you.

Answer 3

Have your hormone levels checked..You may have severe premenstral syndrome.....Womens' cycles and stresses of children, paying bills, housework, dealing with a husband, coping with life....all these things overwhelm a young woman.
Please hon, the doctors recognize it isn't your fault and you need help.

Then have the children checked for ADD or ADHD. More than 1/3 of the children now have some form of this.

We are living in critical times hard to deal with. Sometimes walk away..compose yourself and continue on with dinner or children correction in a mild tone.

Children are so delicate..they remember every time you are hateful..they need you to love and understand them...and be patient.

I wish you well.

Answer 4

sounds like you are really stresses out
see you doctor
he will give you something to help you
your hormones could be all out of balance
pms naybe?
good luck
try not to take it out in your kidsl