Is it right to seperate kids by social staus?

Question

I posted a question a coupke of minutes ago and said I couldn't affored the best nursery school and didn't want to send my child to the poor one. Well people assumed that I was poor, which isn't necessarily the case, the best school in our city is 200 a week and the only other option is the poor one. Should I care that the children that go there are usually from the bad side of town with drugs and what not? Since I can't afford the best should my kid have to be around types of people I wouldn't put myself around? Am I trying to be to snooty or do I have a point? Please Help

wOULD ANYONE PUT THEIR KIDS IN A CLASS WITHCHILDREN WHOS PARENTS ARE ON DRUGS OR AT LEAst look that way?

Answer 1

I totally get what you are saying-

I guess it is hard to articulate without sounding snooty but the cold hard truth is people associate you with the people you hang with...

I'm sure that some of those kids and the parents are great people but...

I would send my kid to the 'better' school at all possible or find something else.

Answer 2

You're not being snooty. We all want what's best for our kids. I'm sure if we could all afford to put our kids in better daycares or private schools, we'd do it. However, I think you should be more concerned with the quality of the daycare and the adult child ratio. Will your child get enough attention? Is the facility clean? Do they use hand sanitizer? Do they send sick kids home? You'd be surprised. Where I live, the "snooty" westside schools are no where as good as the eastside or innercity schools. The other schools are cleaner, the teachers and better prepared, the classes are more advanced and they have more materials. I strongly recommend that you visit both daycares and then decide.

Answer 3

you have a point, but it is a snooty one...if you know what i mean...

you're right to not want your kids around the wrong people, but these people are still kids themselves. how can you say that they're bad people just because they live on a certain side of town. if you had any clue at all, then you would see that YOU don't have the money to send him to the "best" school...so that you're no better than the rest of them.
price is by no means a replacement for the way they care for the kids. keep that in mind.

Answer 4

My son Went to a poorer school except when he was in the 4th through the 5th grade he was always a excellent student we only had one problem when a teacher thought he had ADD-HA.. it turns out that he was bored out of his mind .. the vice principal put him it a GATE class his grades went up... we also challenged him ad home with math problems and word games... he is now a integrated avionics engineer in the Air Force and he works on the Galaxy Class C-5's so no it did not hold him back at all it made him work harder and challenge the teachers.. the good ones loved working with him..plus I told him nothing is out of his reach....and i would do all i could to help him...

Answer 5

Just because the kids are from a poor neighborhood doesn't mean that their parents are drug users. If they were so into drugs they would not bother to put their kids in pre-school so they can become educated and get out of that situation. It is good for kids to get to know kids from every social circle. It is a parent's job to teach their kids to have tolerance for others.

Answer 6

I think you are being snooty. We are talking about NURSERY school. Not JR High ir High school where their is peer pressure. Not to mention there are alot of GOOD people that are poor and do not use drugs. People that are financialy stable do drugs, and crimes to you know. Even though I see your position, I think you are being very judgemental and discriminating against others not so high end social status.

Answer 7

I think you have a point. Kids are great imitators and obviously you're concerned that your kid/s will come home imitating undesirable behaviors, not to mention spouting undesirable words.
For the amount of time a child spends in day care, you definitely want the other kids to be the quality of children you would want your kids to associate with.

I'm surprised there's only two day cares in your area with such a diverse population I would think there would be some middle ground somewhere.

Good for you. Keep your standards high for your child.

Answer 8

I do not think you are being snooty. Personally, being a good parent you should be concerned with the atmosphere and people that your child will be exposed to. I would never leave my children with or somewhere that I was not completely comfortable with. If you wouldn't stay there I wouldn't leave your babies there. Good luck!

Answer 9

you cant always stop it you know......when i was a kid i couldnt hang out with higher class kids just cause i couldnt afford to buy the things that they talked about...by highschool people started having real personalities and stopped caring about money and if they did they werent the person youd want your kids around anyways. sucks at first but it works eventually.and your right i can agree with you but you could try to move to a better community...youlln probably have a crappy house and not be that popular but at least your kids wont end up as druggies..sorry

Answer 10

not every one who puts their children there do drugs, nor would everyone be poor..if you can't afford the pricey one, think of how many others like yourself there are. Imho, your being biased, those children have no say in the matter, and your child could miss out on some great friends, reguarless of their parents income.