He's a sweetheart, and we both love each other. However, we broke up because we both know how I feel about people seeing us together. It is embarrasing to me -- he looks much older than me (he's 30, has gained a few lbs, and the baldness doesn't help). I'm torn between wanting to get back together with him (which he is willing to do) and not wanting to deal with embarrasment. Any advice?
2006-11-06 10:39:00 · 22 answers · asked by tweedledee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly love why are you allowing the general public's point of view spoil what was and still can be a fun loving relationship?
Ask yourself is it really what others may or may not be thinking or do you feel so uncomfortable with the age difference and looks that you are willing to spoil your relationship. If you claim to love him then that's all that matters, I know where ya coming from my partner is 15 yrs older and i also look alot younger for my age and if i lived my personal life worrying about what others think i would not be entirely happy or have found an exceptional personality and companion to live my life with. Ask yourself why you feel embarrassed and if you cannot get past it move on so he can find someone who is comfortable being with him for the way he is, life is to short to be worrying about what other people think. It truley only matters what you think. How does he feel going out with a younger person (that's usually more risky than anything else) because younger people have not quite learnt enough about themselves and life in general in order to be fully self aware and comfortable with them selves, that's why they uncomfortable with what society thinks etc. anyway just be really honest with yourself and with him as to why and in the mean time ejoy life as much as you can.
2006-11-06 10:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by clarissa l 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How about "you are a f-ing *****! he deserves much better than you. Wait until you're 40 and you start losing your hair. I hope this guy finds you then, and laughs in your face, you scumbag!"
Bald guys are better in bed because they have to try harder. If he is gaining weight, it's probably from the drama and stress your sorry little 20 year old self is weighing down on him. Go find a 18 year old boy and play with his peener. You're 20, what do you know about love?
2006-11-06 10:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by Michael S 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all you are lucky that he is willing to get back with you.If you want to be with someone primarily because of his physical features than I don't think you should be in a relationship with anyone.A good man is so hard to find so maybe you should just leave him alone and let someone else snatch him up.Someone who knows how to love unconditionally.Would you rather have a mate that is very nice looking but didnt treat you right or someone who is good to you but isn't the best looking?
2006-11-06 10:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by yesmaam 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had the same problem when I was 19 and the guy was 28. He was balding and I couldn't get past it when people saw us together. There isn't much you can do....if you really cared about him enough you could see past it. It doesn't mean you are shallow...but you are young and it's ok to be picky. Just don't tag him along and hurt his feelings...that's not worth it.
Good luck.
2006-11-06 10:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by mrspatpat79 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are worried about how you look as a couple and what other people will say, then you are not mature enough to be in a relationship with him. Let him find someone who does not put such importance on the physical appearance.
2006-11-06 10:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you really love your bf you wouldnt be embarrassed being seen with him. dont worry about what other people say or think about you and your bf. as long as you love him and he loves you back then it shouldnt matter. ive seen a very bad couple before and yeah a lot of people think that they look weird going out. but it doesn't matter cus it seems like they dont care cus from this date they been dating for almost 3 years. and they still love each other. so dont worry about what people think its you love not theirs. and no one can stop you from loving him but yourself. and the 10 years apart, i dont think it matters. my aunt is 13 years younger than my uncle.and i now alot of more couples like that. youre not the only one. just remember, as long as you love your bf then you shouln't be embarrased to be seen with him if you really love him
2006-11-06 10:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by maddie 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you really loved him then it shouldn't matter if he looks older than you. It seems to be a shallow reason to avoid being with the person you love.
If you can't move past his looks then don't waste his time and break his heart further.
2006-11-06 10:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by isitlove20 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow... you should SERIOUSLY re-evaluate this relationship... You broke up because of PHYSICAL attributes? Whoa... Sorry to say but you are one shallow woman... Think about what will happen when you guys get married and he gets super super old and ugly. Then what? Real love has no eyes. He should look beautiful to you no matter what... Re-think your relationship and good luck!
2006-11-06 10:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by reba 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just let the guy go. If you have a problem with his appearance now, it's never going to change. It's only going to get worse considering most people tend to age rather ungracefully.
2006-11-06 10:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by New mommy 2010! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Awwww hun i know it can be hard being embarresed about your man! But you both love each other....who cares about what other people think. Get back with him if you two make each other happy then theres nothing stopping you.
2006-11-06 10:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋