I was dating this guy for about a week. We had some pretty intense conversations and got to know each other very well right away. He had dated a lot of different people, while I have always been more into relationships. I didn't push him into a relationship...he wanted to be in one. He initiated it. We had an amazing weekend together doing some really fun and unique things. He would tell me how I was what he'd been looking for for years. That I'm the one he's been searching for. How happy I made him. How if he was having a bad day I could turn it around. Then, out of nowhere, he says he's unhappy with where he is in his life regarding work and his living situation. That he feels like he needs to take better control over those things before he can feel like he can fully give to someone. It was completely out of nowhere. So he says he still wants to be close friends. That he still needs me in his life, just not in a relationship. I have no idea what to think or do. Am I missing something
2006-11-06 10:26:07 · 15 answers · asked by Squeegy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have wondered if he's afraid to get close to people. His mom died when he was young, and he talks about how all he ever has is his dad and his dog. That those are th only 2 stable things he has. So is he just afraid of getting close to someone? And he felt it with me so he backed off? He was really truthful about saying he cared. I just don't know what to think or do now. I do want him in my life.
2006-11-06 10:34:47 · update #1
trust me i know guys will say anything to try to get into your pances you just have to get over him and movie on
2006-11-06 10:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by bratbabydown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not missing nothing . He believes if he controls what he feels that is wrong in his life before he can fully give himself to someone he going to wait along time. Life is never perfect. Life can go smooth for awhile then something will come up thats life it has it's ups and downs. He just don't know it. He going to let a good person go because things are not right in his life. He whats to be your friend thats not going to work. I believe he wants to be your friend for he won't lose you.And in his mind "when things are right' He need you again. Or he could been a stright bullshiter and tell you those things to get what he wanted. Some guys are really good at that staff.
2006-11-06 18:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's afraid of commitment. You said that he has dated many people. He never was one to settle down. He may really feel that way about you, but he's afraid of getting involved in something that deep. If you really like this guy, try being his friend. Go out with him every now and then, maybe to the movies or something, an informal date. This way you'll be able to get to know him better. You may not even like the guy after this. If he's not what you're looking for, then move on.
2006-11-06 18:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by New mommy 2010! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he wants to make changes in his life and just wants to focus on those before getting into a serious relationship with you...be supportive and stick by him it sounds like it wants you to still be really close to him but not ready for a relationship yet until he's made the changes he wants to make...but if he's just draging you along them get rid of him
2006-11-06 18:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by Cassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he got scared at the depth of feelings he is having
he seems to have set the wrong priorities --- find someone then sort out work and life
2006-11-06 18:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand where he is coming from.
he wants to make sure everything in his life is going good, before he has a relationship.
i think he really wants the best for you.
if you really like him, and think that it will work out, wait for him to try to turn his life around.
2006-11-06 18:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by brooke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He decided that he didnt want to be with you anymore and was trying to be nice and let you down easy by saying that it was work or whatever.
He just wasnt into you.
2006-11-06 18:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by lovesicklust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have a real problem.
if you love him and are strong enough just be friends and do what you want in the time being.
and if he changes his mind to be with you go for it ONLY IF YOU FEEL ITS RIGHT.
good luck i hope you do the right thing.
2006-11-06 18:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hah so been there done that!
Maybe he really has this stuff going on but it's not your prob
Take it for what it was, and try not to feel too hurt
2006-11-06 18:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by somebody cares 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is either scared or has someone else he is hidding. You deserve better, decide what you want in life and get it.
2006-11-06 18:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by Vegastitan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋