this guy was my friend for about 3 months and we literally hang out together like...every second of our lives and I really know him, and he really knows me, and one day, he asked his x-girlfriend if I want to go out with him. she asked me and is probably telling everyone about it. plus, I reeeaaalllyyy like this OTHER guy and he probably like me too, but haven't said anything. So, my friend wants to ask me out and this is my first date. I don't know what to say. I don't want to hurt his feelings by saying no, and this is probably the only chance I'll get asked out. I do like him alot, and I do like to go out with him, but I don't like him as much as the other guy and I don't want to ruin any chances with him.
and...what do you do when you go out? i need answers quick plz!!!
2006-11-06 10:20:31 · 8 answers · asked by Charlene 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go out with the guy that is going to ask you. Now, deal with this other guy you like more. Just hang out with him and talk to him. If you find that he likes you and you like him then let this other guy understand that you have feelings for someone else. If you were to continue dating him then you would just be on a guilt trip and that is no fun.
2006-11-06 10:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by John Doe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humm...this is a tough situation. Well, you are not committed to anyone. So with that said, it doesn't hurt to play the field a little, but be honest with both guys. Tell your "3 month" friend you ARE dating other people, until you find Mr. Right. There is nothing wrong with that.Just set up some boundaries until you decide what YOU want or Who you want. If you think "Other Guy" is interested, there is nothing wrong with persuing that at the same time, but again be honest and set up boundaries. What type of boundaries? Well, don't give out all of your "goodies" too fast until you know YOU are READY and to the person who is worth it. A little kiss here and there, if you feel it, is not big deal. I just think a kiss is just a kiss as long as you control that's all it is. Just take your time and enjoy the attention.
2006-11-06 18:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by sunflwr528ia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM that you adore him as a friend and there is not a thing in the world that you want happen to that friendship. Tell him let s go out as friends because you couldn't stand ever losing him. That should fix the problem, b/c 1) you'll still go out together and 2) you're still in circilation for the other guy and 3) No hurt feelings! ;o)
2006-11-06 18:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the other guy that you like really alot like you? Are you sure he would be interested in going out with you? Because if he will not be and you say no to the guy who asked you out, then you may loose both. You know what they say - a bird in hand is better than 2 in the bush.
Good luck
2006-11-06 18:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, this isn't the only time you will be asked out. Secondly, go out with him. You might find that you really like him as more than just a friend. You haven't gone out with the other guy that you reeeeeaaaalllyy like, so you don't know what you're missing now do ya?
2006-11-06 18:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by stacye5398 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING HERE. WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS BE THE WORST DATE EVER BUT IN A WAY THAT YOU DONT RUIN YOUR FRIENDSHIP!!! PUSH HIM TO UNDERSTAND THAT YOU GUYS WERE NOT MEANT TO BE. LET HIM DUMP YOU!!!
2006-11-06 18:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by key4eva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out w/ both of them...There's no harm in that....It's not like you all are going to get married after one date....
2006-11-06 18:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by JennyAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk
2006-11-06 18:23:30 · answer #8 · answered by Emily Janssen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋