I'm with my boyfriend 4 times a week. We usually watch a TV show we both like on Thursday (he's watched it at my house once). He's the one who started that "tradition". Then on Friday we go watch a movie. Then I told him I miss him and wished I could see him more, so I started going over to his house on Monday. Then, we very recently started spending the entire day together on Sunday.
I didn't really think anything of it until my mom said that I go over there too much. I invited him over that week to watch that show here. Last night I spent the greater part of the day with him. I had to go into work for an hour for a meeting. He wanted me to come back. In fact, he said he was glad that I was coming back. I was expecting to come back and eat dinner with his family. While I was gone though, they all ate dinner, including him.
So now I feel like I'm not welcome there. It was even an inconvenience for him to wait on me to get back. Do I tell him I'm not coming over much anymore?
2006-11-06 10:19:14 · 6 answers · asked by New mommy 2010! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, and I just realized I actually used the sentence, "Last night I spent the greater part of the day with him." ROFL. Excuse my blondeness. :(
2006-11-06 10:20:23 · update #1
I've met his family. In fact, I ate dinner with them last week.
2006-11-06 10:24:38 · update #2
I would say limit your time there until you feel comfortable. I would say no more than 2/3 days a week. He can come over your house the other days or you guys could go out, but dont spend too much time over there (not saying you are, but maybe alot to them, is a little to you). If it really becomes "bad", talk to your boyfriend. He should understand and give you better advise because he knows his family better than anyone on here. Good Luck!
2006-11-06 10:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by Ash_082 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mom and dad are not going to wait on you to eat diner esspecially if you are a regular at the house. They also preasure him into eating when diner is done and still warm since his mother worked so hard to prepare it. If this is the only reason you feel unwelcome I think you need to reconsider. Your mother probly feels you spend to much time over there for a few reasons to give. Maybe you are eating over there a bit and she feels that it and other stuff may be costing them a bit of money or she would like you to spend more time at home with her wether the two of you get along or not. Ask your bf's mother one day in a conversation what she thinks about these things. She will let you know as long as you let her know that you are up to the truth either way her answer is.
2006-11-06 10:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my brother always has his girl over and after a while it can get a bit annoying never having a family evening together and always cooking for one more. My dad is the one who gets pissed off about it the most, but he would never ever show it to her!
I think that they didnt even realise they where leaving you out to be honest. Or just wanted to catch the odd family moment together....i wouldnt take it to heart.
But i do think that you should maybe re think how much time you spend over his, give his family some space and spend some time with yours!
Hope it all works out and rememeber DONT take it to heart.
2006-11-06 10:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you're expecting too much. so what that they ate dinner without you, they probably thought that you'd get something to eat on your way over. it certainly doesn't mean that you're not welcome there anymore. but if you do, feel that way talk to your boyfriend but don't make it into a big issuse. just let him know that it bothered you and you wanted to talk about it to get it off your chest.
2006-11-06 10:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just wanted to be alone with you for a while. If you didnt akready meet his family it might be a gud thing.. trust me!!! but dont worry if your man loves you dearly then he wants to really be able to brag about you to his family and not lower their expectations. WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT IT WILL HAPPEN!!!
2006-11-06 10:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by kellydarcey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can tell you from experience, ( i was married for 18 years and my in laws never did like me) its a tough thing, but dont go over there. Tell the boy toy that you would like to spend time him at your house. and if he asks why, just tell him that you're not comfortable at his house. no elaboration, just that and shrug.... i just made up excuses for awhile and then told the husby that his mom hated me. (she knew i didnt like lamb and invited me over for a lamb dinner yeah, it didnt take a rocket scientist to get that one huh?) but there ya go! good luck!
2006-11-06 10:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by Joyce K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋