My cousin and I are both 27....she is pregnant with her 3rd child, a girl....a couple of years ago we had a conversation where I told her that if I ever have a girl, I wanted to name her Emily or Emma....and I said, "So if you have another girl, don't steal my idea!" I still don't have any kids....but feel the same way about the name....but now I found out that she is going to use the name Emma! She says she doesn't remember me ever saying that...also she says that she recalls me once saying that I didn't want to have kids...which is true, when I was in my early 20s I used to say that I didn't want kids....but my feelings are hurt because I really, really wanted to use one of those names! I am pretty pissed off at her! Is this wrong of me?
2006-11-06 10:14:42 · 22 answers · asked by Courtney 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It's not silly, but I don't think its worth blowing a gasket. She may not have remembered the specifics but for some reason thought "I don't know why but Emma sounds like a nice name... hmmm" since it was in her mind. Even if you eventually do have kids there isn't a guarentee they'd be girls. Instead of being mad be happy that the beautiful little girl name Emma is your niece, when she gets big you can even tell her how you though of her name.
Besides whats wrong with cousins with the same name? Emily Elizabeth and then Emily Ann? They could be best buddies.
2006-11-06 10:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Stormvisions 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can still use that name. In my family I have a dad, a brother and an uncle with the same name. When my cousin found out she was having a boy she said she couldn't decide between naming her baby Mateo after my grandfather or Daryl. I told her that I wanted to name my first boy Mateo, so she should go with the other name. Well, she decided to name him Mateo. My husband said that we could still name our first boy Mateo. Why not? I'm pregnant now. If I have a boy I'm naming him Mateo. I'm sure my grandpa will love it that two of his great grandchildren are named after him.
Plus, she had her baby first, so she gets first dibs. No big deal.
It's just a name. Plus no offense, but Emily and Emma are pretty common. You can do better than that. I'm sure you'll find a more unique name when your time comes.
Don't be upset. What if you have all boys or what if your husband doesn't like the name Emma? You can always use the name Emily, right? Plus, if you do have a baby, it'll probably be a few years from now. Then, her baby will be a little older and you'll be able to name her Emma too.
2006-11-06 10:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Jay 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is! Why can't they both have the same name? Will the family get confused at Christmas or something? Why is that such a big deal? Our son is nicknamed "JJ" and so is his cousin that he has never met and I have met once. They don't stand for the same thing, yet another family member thought it was a bad idea. Why?! I think it's a bad idea to name everybody in the family so long as the name begins with "J." I believe children should be named after someone special in either your life or your child's or both and I don't know anyone but my husband's family who has a "J name." You should both be rejoicing in the babies and in your ability to share this time together. THAT'S what it's all about!
2006-11-06 10:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of those names have become very popular. You don't "own" those names and there's no reason why she can't use it. If you were also pregnant with a girl and planning on using that name that might be another story but if you aren't and have no plans to have a baby anytime soon why not let her use the name? You can tell her you would rather she not use the name but in the end it's up to her. What's up to you is how you feel about it and how you deal with those feelings. Good luck.
2006-11-06 10:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could actually use that call. In my family individuals I easily have a dad, a brother and an uncle with the comparable call. while my cousin found out she replaced into having a boy she suggested she could no longer settle on between naming her infant Mateo after my grandfather or Daryl. I instructed her that i had to call my first boy Mateo, so she would desire to flow with the different call. properly, she desperate to call him Mateo. My husband suggested that shall we nonetheless call our first boy Mateo. Why no longer? i'm pregnant now. If I easily have a boy i'm naming him Mateo. i'm particular my grandpa will like it that 2 of his great grandchildren are named after him. Plus, she had her infant first, so she gets first dibs. No huge deal. it somewhat is basically a popularity. Plus no offense, yet Emily and Emma are quite undemanding. you're able to do extra suitable than that. i'm particular you will detect a extra unique call while a while comes. don't be disillusioned. What in case you have all boys or what in case your husband does not like the call Emma? you could consistently use the call Emily, ideal? Plus, in case you do have a infant, it's going to probable be some years from now. Then, her infant would be a splash older and you could call her Emma too.
2016-10-21 09:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that you are upset. we actually had to change the baby name we had picked because my best friend named her daughter the same thing, then I started noticing how common the name was. take it as a compliment that she liked the name so much she took your "suggestion". If you were both pregnant at the same time I would be upset.. but since you arent, and you dont know when you will have kids, let it slide and enjoy the new baby. Its such a minor thing to get angry over.
Blessings
2006-11-06 10:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by grapelady911 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha my sister had that problem with my brother in laws cousin. My niece's name is Natalie Marie and when my brother in laws cousin had a girl she named her Natalia Marie which is the same thing except that you pronounce hers in Spanish but she still argues that it's not the same lol. I would be hurt if I told someone what I wanted to name my daughter and they used the name.
2006-11-06 10:59:56 · answer #7 · answered by ♥BrOkEn_HeArTeD♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not silly, but you should get over it.
i named my son the same name as my sister's son, but for different reasons. (named after a deceased family member in my case, she just liked the name in her case). she did not get upset.
maybe she named emma after a special family member.
anyway, if you ever do have kids, you can still name one emma, or you may like different names by then. some families have multiple people with the same name. it's not a big deal.
2006-11-06 10:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by mahz85 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not silly. The same thing happened to me....someone in my husbands family stole my baby name. I was angry for a long time. Eventually you will get over it and find something else that is suitable. If you really are that attatched to the name, just use it anyways. I think I might use my baby name in the future. You could use it as a middle name also.
2006-11-06 10:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Pea 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No, but it's not worth it to hold the grudge. Here's a fun story:
My mom and my aunt (her sister) were pregnant at the same time. My mom told my aunt that if she had a boy, she was going to name him Michael. Well, I was born - I'm a girl. My aunt had the boy and named him.... Michael.
My mom was peeved. When my little brother was born, she went ahead and named him Michael anyway.
They didn't talk for about 4 years, but they got over it, eventually. The rest of the family thinks it's kind of funny and cute.
Name your kid what you want. Who cares?
2006-11-06 10:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by LorraineBates 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋