im 15, and my parents dont allow me to stay outside past 8 30. i have to be home then. im pretty mature, i call them check up and im careful if something goes on. how can i tell my parents to let me stay longer outside? (btw if your a parent, what time did ur child have to go home at my age)
and my second question is that my parents are really strict on my furture career, i want to do something i enjoy and find interest, but my parents say its a waste of my time and not a good pay. they want me to be a police officer ( i dont mind) but its really hard to get into it, they think its easier than all the careers i've told them i rather be. any ideas on how to change their minds?
2006-11-06 10:09:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ooooo i remember the strictness of when i was 15 it was about the same curfew as you. So stick it out arguing about it didnt get me anywhere. When you turn 16 and so on they should ease up!
Personally i think it is wrong for your parents to decided what career you are going to do. Think about it doing something you dont enjoy for a big part of your life for a good pay its not worth it. My dad told me 'i could be anything i wanted to be' and he didnt really have a say when i was choosing my college course...i made mistakes on my own but thats the best way to learn.
There is noway you can change their minds they have there heart sent on their little girl becoming a police officer!! But if you feel so passionate about a diff future then go for it you cant live someone elses dreams!!
2006-11-06 10:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Two things. When I was your age, (I am 26 now) I had to be in by 9:30. Lots of cities have cerfews that parents really should obey. So check your city cerfews. If you want an extra hour. Ask them. Sit down and have a talk, see what their concerns are, and ask them to give you a chance. You would let them know where you would be at all times, and that there would be a parent around, if your going to someones house.
As for the police officer thing.. I go to law enforcement schooling. Just so say. They dont get paid all that munch. Actually little. And you really have to want to be an officer. Its not hard to get into, you cant have a felony, assult or battery, and you cant have a juvinille record. Thats all that would stop you. Your 15 and your being really responsible about thinking about careers, but why dont you start by just keeping good grades, so then you can get a scholorship, and you do what you want. :)
2006-11-06 10:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by Sophiegreeneyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a parent a lot of things go into a curfew: the type of area you live in (is it safe), the type of friends you hang out with, where you are going, and how mature you are. At your age my son had a curfew of about 9:00.
Picking a future career needs a lot of thought, being a police officer is nice, but if you have a talent for something that can earn you a good living - go for it.
2006-11-06 10:16:08 · answer #3 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never had a car, so the curfew thing was never an issue since my mom was always my ride home. we just agreed that she would pick me up either when the event was over, or if it lasted for a long time, at an agreed upon time.
you may want to please your parents, but your career is your decision. YOU are the one who has to live with it for the rest of your life. i'm in college right now, and i've seen how many opportunities college offers. i recommend going to college with your major being "undecided" and take some time to take different classes and figure out what you want to be. if your parents won't pay for college unless you do what they want, don't be afraid of finances. scholarships and grants do not have to ever be paid back and most loans don't have to be repaid until after you graduate. so study your passions in college and make the most of your experience. your parents will respect you for being yourself.
2006-11-06 10:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by disciple1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're lucky you get to go out until 830, others aren't trusted by their parents enough and so don't get to go out at all!Enjoy your parents' trust and don't break it, you'll regret it the rest of your life.
But as far as career goes, I agree with you.You have to take a career you enjoy, you're the one who's going to live with it anyway.Why don't you tell them the negative side of being a police officer for a start, the danger it involves and, jokingly add if they want to see grandchildren better not that career.
Seriously though, I think your parents would be open-minded wnough to let you take up your choice of career since they trust you enough to go out on your own at night.Try talking to them again and again, don't give up.They won't be able to resist long, you'll see...
2006-11-06 10:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by ivy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your future. Ask your parents what is more important to them, for you to be happy in life or unhappy (doing a job that you wouldn't have chosen to do). Money is important, but if one bases their life on it, they pay the price by never experiencing true contentment and happiness. What is the point of money without happiness.
It also sounds like you may negotiate to get a 9:00 limit established. Good luck!
2006-11-06 12:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how to deal with parents like that/ my parents were very laid back, if its any consolation i had a friend and her parents had a curfew on her of 9:00 all the way up until she moved out of there house at age 22/ good luck
keep your chin up and smile big
2006-11-06 10:15:37 · answer #7 · answered by Shorty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well on the first question just sit down with them and be calm no yelling or crying. and ask tell them all your good points and ask if they can extened your curfew 30 min or so.
on the second question. u have plenty of time before college. stay true to your dreams and ideas and maybe sit down with you schools guidance counselor and ask her how you should approach this with your parents, you never know he/she may schedule a meeting to discuss this with your parents. i m sorry i am not more help on this one but my parents have always told me to follow my heart
2006-11-06 10:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by i love paris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand the curfew thing at your age, as you get older they'll probably get less strict, but as far as your career you've got to do what you like.
2006-11-06 10:12:07 · answer #9 · answered by leena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow 8:30
like omg at least 9 oclock
well like u should tell your parents wat u want to do
i mean if u become a police officer and u dont fing your job fun then thatll be sad u should do whatever u enjoy doing
2006-11-06 11:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by AnimeLuver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋