he's said he wants to 'keep me': is it good? is it good? What do you think?
2006-11-06 09:56:02 · 20 answers · asked by ♥Lasha♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
only you know the answer..he must have been telling you lots of other things..maybe he wants you near till death and can't live without keeping you near or keeping you inside..or maybe he wants to keep you until a better one shows up..so this may be compliment or an insult...i think u know which one..look inside and be honest
2006-11-06 13:00:11 · answer #1 · answered by rseny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants to keep you? Hmmm
I guess that can be taking a couple different ways really.
One is that he is just not good at verbalizing what he really feels. And that's his way of telling you that he cares about you deeply and wouldn't never want to loose you.
Or he could just be a control freak and by saying that he means that he will never let you go. Not good.
Either way you need to talk to him and ask him this question :-)
No matter what anyone on here says
The words coming from him will mean a world more to you..
Best of luck to you Hun.
2006-11-06 10:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by heather_honey_2002hs 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a 'kept woman' generally means that he works and you dont. So youd have to have him define what that means to him, do you get an allowance, does he have certain expectations of you as his kept woman. Things to keep in mind, you dont want to lose who you are to please anyone but especially not a man. And if your marriage didnt work out what would you be left with. I mean if youre married for 12 years and then the marriage dissolves you wont have any recent work experience and you may not have your own money so would he pay spousal support. I know its not romantic to think about, but what about a pre-nup? Also decided whether or not you have enough in your life to fill your days with since you, probably, wouldnt be working.
2006-11-06 11:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by miss m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he means by keep. If you don't want to be 'kept' in the traditional sense then he needs to know now before you marry.
Is he looking for a stay at home woman who cleans and cooks etc . but is not allowed to go out to work? How would you feel about that? Get things cleared up now. Sometimes, though not always, a kept woman is a trapped woman.
Do you value your independence??
You both need a session of good honest talk about how you both want things to be.
2006-11-06 10:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are the only two choices between "is it good?" and "is it good?", or was that a mistake on your part?
If he means that he wants you as a "kept woman", wherein you don't work and you take care of him and the household and bear his children, then it's good if that's what you want but bad if it isn't.
If he means it as in "you're a keeper", which means he doesn't want you ever to be out of his life, then it's good if that's the way you feel as well but bad if you don't.
2006-11-06 10:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you even seem like you might think he is controlling.. If he says he wants to keep you the way it is sounding and if it really is controlling then i would get out of there as soon as you can! But if you are REALLY happy then stick around and see whats in store!
2006-11-06 11:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep you?? Does that mean the same thing as control you?? If so, move on....
2006-11-06 10:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by JennyAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a good thing.
2006-11-06 10:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by spacedchic00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants to keep you--I think it just means that he enjoys your company.
2006-11-06 09:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He'll keep you when you two get married.
2006-11-06 11:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋