I've been in 5 serious long term relationships and the result is always the same...
I grew up in a semi-wealthy family. We do alright. One of the most instilled behaviors in my family is to do what you can for those who need help. That usually comes down to money with most.
Now that I'm an adult, I don't have access to the funds that were available to me growing up. I'm completely on my own!
And that's where my relationships end. Every guy I've ever fallen in love with uses me for money. I mean completely!! I pay all the bills, I own 4 cars now and am desperately trying to buy myself a house.
I just don't understand why this keeps happening... I know it's my natural but I'm very mindful of who I start dating. They don't start out using me. At least not as much. (I'm a good looking woman with a brain and definately am not desperate).
My question is, how can I change my behavior so I can fall in love with someone who actually loves me in return?
2006-11-06 09:45:54 · 3 answers · asked by Twiggette 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop paying for things. Stop telling them you have money. Since it doesn't start out with them using you then your teaching them to use you. Why would you pay the bills ?? Are you trying to keep them around with $$. You have to evaluate what your doing and where your going wrong.
2006-11-06 09:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing what your doing now, but next time you meet someone, let them think your not so well off, and see if they care about you.
2006-11-06 17:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sentinel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pay for things. Don't allow them to use you. Look up codependency, it might be helpful. Good luck.
2006-11-06 17:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by catzrme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋