I'm I in the wrong about staying single?

Question

Ok I know this is long but it has to be. I'm I wrong to just want to remain single? Being that I'm only 23 and yes a virgin. Shocking I know. I can't seem to find anyone who just look past that. Yes I've had a couple of boyfriends but they just couldn't take it anymore about me not wanting to sleep with them that they would just leave. What is with you guys? Why can't you look past that stuff and see the other qualities that women have? I'm to the point in which I wanted to have sex but not now if its going to be a chore. I just have no interest in doing it or dating guys anymore because I don't want to be rejected again. I'll just take care of myself I guess. So there you go, another decent girl added to the singles list. Does anyone else ever feel this way???

Answer 1

i love virgins. there is nothing wrong in saving your self for the right person. i feel that there is moe to life and a relationship than sex. i would love to meet a virgin my self because ther is no presure to have sex and you can have all the fun you want and have a real relationship with the person you are with. I must be the only guy but if you want to chat just im me.

Answer 2

You're not alone.
I was happy being single just like you.
I mean, I was so sick of all the drama boys would bring into my life.
It came to the point where I could care less if I didn't have someone. I knew I would just get hurt all over again.
I knew that God has a plan for me and that I shouldn't worry about it. I'll depend on Him and everything will be just fine.

I always say... you'll never find love if you keep looking for it.

And ya know what? I sure would've felt like a complete dumbass if I had sex with one any of the jerks in my life.
I too am a virgin and around your age. And I have nothing to be ashamed of. I'm proud. Saving sex for your husband is the best idea.

Little did I know that my boyfriend was right under my nose the entire time. We were friends for a long time and we've been going out for 9 months now. I've never been so happy in my life with anyone else. I can't wait till our wedding day.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be single. I like your attitude about it. It's like you don't NEED someone to make you happy right now... you don't give off the desperate vibe a lot of people I know do. You seem like a strong-willed woman and any guy will be very lucky to have you.

Answer 3

when the right person comes along, you will want to jump their bones!! You just haven't met the right person, but sooner or later you will. Some people don't ever meet the right person, and die a lonely person. I don't understand it, but if that's what one wants, then so be it. Saving yourself for the right person, is the thing to do. Sometimes it may not be the smartest thing to do, but it is the right thing to do. You would be surprised at how many other girls are just like you at 23. You are not that old!! If you haven't found someone by 30, then you might want to start worrying about it. As far as the boyfriend thing; you must be looking in the wrong places for mister right. If one doesn't want a drunk, then don't go to the bar to meet guys. I hope this helps you decide what to do. good Luck!!!

Answer 4

You should never compromise your needs or beliefs. If you want to wait for that special someone to share that with then there's no problem with it. But I can understand how it would be a problem for men (and women) because sex is an essential part of most relationships.

Especially when two people care for each other. Sex can be a deep expression of love or a bond that transcends the capacity of words, and at times could almost be sacred.

But again, what you hold important to you isn't something should should look at with a fickle commitment. But don't disregard sex completely. I think healthy sex is a large part of our overall emotional and physical identity and hapiness.

Answer 5

I just have to say congratulations to you for being 23 and a Virgin, so am I and I have no regrets. I know a lot of my friends are virgins as well and there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. Yes there are times when it's hard as ever to not go further, but we know we're worth more than just a one night stand. I don't know why you're staying a virgin, but for me I'm waiting for marriage. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months and we are both virgins waiting until marriage. While we may want to do more, we don't b/c we respect ourselves and each other. Fortunately he doesn't pressure me into doing anything that I don't want to do. So I say just remain true to yourself and don't compromise your values for a man. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Well I'm not a virgin, but I understand the whole dating thing. With guys, it seems as if they are constantly wanting to pounce on something, and if you don't give them what they want then they will just move on to the next available person. The important thing is for you to keep your morals and values. Don't settle, the right guy will come around, and will respect your choice to wait. You might try a chritian based dating group, you might find some virgin guys there that would understand why you've waited.

Answer 7

Thing is hun, this is what guys usually think about when they "get" with someone.

It's not your fault, but you can't blame guys for wanting to do it.

I'd say more power to you cuz you actually save youself because you don't want to be pressured into it.

I'd respect that, and I hope you find some guy who will stick it out with you until ur ready.

Maybe you should loosen up and not expect so much from guys. Or maybe you think you're just being assertive and up-front and actually scaring them away.

I mean by the way ur typing, you seem pretty aggressive. I don't know about others, but I'm definitely not into aggressive girls.

Answer 8

Join the club....reading your question I saw so many parallels between what Ive been feeling for the past few years - I am pretty much completely happy being single - I dont think I want to be for my whole life but where I am now - I dont have any need for the types of guys that are out there now....why bother with so many who are so unworthy?

Answer 9

Don't worry i feel the same way except i'm only 15 but all the guys i know look for the same thing and i'm single. Being single rocks. You'll find that one guy who will look past that don't worry. When you do finally find that guy make sure it's the right one before you just give it up. Your virginity is something you should save for the right peson and if that guy cant except that then forget them

Answer 10

You do what you need to do and when you meet the right guy, and he is out there, making love will be anything but a chore!!!! Take your time, Hun. Don't worry about those idiots that won't look past the fact that you won't have sex with them, not all guys are idiots like that, just be true to you.