I am 21-years-old, I still live at home. I don't pay rent or anything, but I do pay for my bills. Sometimes I get help from my parents, but 99 % of the time it's all me. I had to buy my own car.
I started dating someone almost two months ago. I never dated anyone before. I was always shy and never found anyone, until now. My parents gave me a 10:30 curfew (sometimes 11:00 on specific nights). If I come in 5, 10, 15 minutes late, I get a lecture.
Also, yesterday I spent the day with him. I had my phone on vibrate because I worked the day before. I had 4 missed calls from home. My mom and dad gave me a lecture saying that I should check in with her all day so she knows I'm okay. I made an argument about it, and they said, "Well, your brother checked in when he was out." My brother never dated! Gah!
It's ticking me off so much. They are never going to let me grow up! And now my boyfriend and I are planning on getting married. I told my mom and she just scoffed at it like it's a joke.
2006-11-06 09:05:32 · 8 answers · asked by New mommy 2010! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, my mom said she's going to embarass me tonight when he comes over by asking for his phone number and address! Gah! Stupid parents ruining everything. :(
2006-11-06 09:06:47 · update #1
I HAVE a job. I can't afford to get my own place.
2006-11-06 09:11:45 · update #2
Moving out is something I can't afford at the moment, so basically I'm stuck living here. You guys act as if I'm a moocher. It's easy to call someone that when you're not having to go through it. I'm paying about $500 a month or more in bills. I have just a part-time job until something better comes along. You can't move out if you don't have any money. Besides that, my boyfriend lives with his parents and they treat him like a grown-up. My UNCLE even told them it was rediculous to give me a curfew. They could at least respect me enough as a person to give me some leniancy.
2006-11-06 09:14:53 · update #3
I think that's super extreme. I mean I had a curfew all the way up until 21 but never as early as 10:30. But having a tantrum about it isn't going to help. You have to show your parents that you're a mature adult, capable of making your own decisions. It's one thing to worry about a person and want them to call and say everything is ok. But tell them that more than once is way too much, and as long as you're home by a certain time, what's the problem. I would also ask for a little more leniency on the curfew issue, and ask why they picked 10:30 and give them a suggestion as to what you think is more reasonable.
As long as you aren't rushing into marriage to get from under your parent's control, you'll be fine. Make sure you really love your boyfriend and aren't using him as an escape. Perhaps you should consider moving out and staying by yourself, that way you don't have to answre to anyone. But I would definitely talk to my parents and let them know how I'm feeling, but in a calm, mature way. If they won't listen to what you have to say, write it in a letter and explain yourself and what you want. Be clear about it.
2006-11-06 09:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow!!!!! curfew at 21, that maybe the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. This is something you just need to get in your parents face about and be like no f*^&ing way am I going to stick to a 10:30 curfew or any curfew at all.
2006-11-06 09:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you have a curfew at 21? anyway move out then you wont have to deal with them in your business all the time. well if you do go out, its always a good idea to tell your parents so they have atleast an idea of where you are and when you are coming home, esp. if something happens to you. atleast your parents care.
2006-11-06 09:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i visit understand your emotions of frustration. Your husband is being on your opinion very insensitive on your needs...and it quite seems that way. he's appearing as although what you want or want doesn't count number or is an issue for him. communicate over with him and tell him the way you're receiving his moves...do not accuse or shout. yet particularly tell him the way you're taking his moves...with a bit of luck this would open up a communication that would want to enable him to percentage his ideas on why he feels the want to act that way. communicate over with him, then enable it go.
2016-11-28 20:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by sobczak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 21 yrs old??? I don't think this is a question anymore of them letting you grow up... your grown. Why don't you move out on your own... problem solved.
2006-11-06 09:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Jack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should really hav a long talk with ur parents cuz its kinda ridiculous. tell them tht ur old enough 2 handle evrything by yourself and tht its ur b/f not theirs so they really shouldnt meddle in ur personal business
2006-11-06 09:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by Em 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way your talking I can TOTALLY understand why your mother treats you this way..........Get a job......Get your own place........And pay ALL your own bills .........Then and only then can you make the rules!
2006-11-06 09:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents are probably just scared if you get hurt...your should be happy you have parents like that.
2006-11-06 09:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by deborah_25_2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋