My daughter, 6, has play-dates with a boy in her class. They get along great and I am perfectly comfortable with them playing together. I was caught off-guard when the boy's mother called and asked how I felt about a sleepover. I didn't really know how to respond. What are your thoughts?
2006-11-06 08:58:27 · 13 answers · asked by CPAKeith 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My father always taught me (he was a religeous leader) that the children with immoral problems always said it started young at a sleepover! It just isn't wise to promote this kind of familiararity with different genders. It can lead to questions later on about why then and not now. It is ok to teach your child that you don't sleep with a boy until you are married...and just let it go at that. I think you are right to hold your ground and say no thanks. My kids won't be allowed to have sleepovers with boys or girls, but that is just my upbringing. Good Luck with everything!
2006-11-06 10:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by jamiasl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two boys and three girls. My twin girls have a friend that comes over and my six year old boy has a blast with her. It's not like they are going to get down and dirty at that age. They probably don't even think about those things, just having fun playing together. I think it is perfectly normal for kids to have opposite gender sleepovers until they are about ten. Once they start puberty it is probably not the best idea, but come on, they are only six. I say that it's fine, but do whatever you feel is right.
2006-11-06 09:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by baby oh's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at that young of an age that they would be harmless just as long as they aren't sharing a bed or anything. Agree on some ground rules with the other parent before you agree on the sleepover. Once she gets older she probably shouldn't be having boy-girl sleepovers, but at 6 she'll be fine.
2006-11-06 13:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I go against the norm on this...but I don't have a problem with it. If they are playmates, at 6, what could they possibly do?
Of course, I'd set some rules, like everyone gets their own sleeping bag, and they have to sleep in a place that is public in the house, like the family room.
I had co-ed sleepovers when I was that age, and all we did was play!
2006-11-06 09:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by LorraineBates 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that I understand your dilemma. I would probably say that at this age it is ok as long as they are not sleeping in the bedroom. Why not camp out in the living room with them? That way they are supervised & still get to play together without feeling weird about it. As long as it is something that you & the other parents are comfortable with go ahead. You guys know your children better than anyone else.
2006-11-06 11:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by jodi g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not let that happen. I'm sure it's hard trying to figure out a way to tell this parent and your kid easy that the answer is no- but kids grow up fast these days... trust me, I'm only 22 and I'm seeing a lot of what my sister is doing to my parents from their point of view now.
2006-11-06 09:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by KC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the reason 13yr olds are having kids. Don't get me wrong, I believe in equality between genders, but children need to realize that there is a difference physically. And that those differences should be a barrier between them until they are adults. Playing during the day is fine, but to allow them to in a non sexual, yet inappropriate way, sleep togethe isn't right.
2006-11-06 09:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by Laura R 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
NO PROBLEM AT ALL. LET HER GO.
Why do parents judge kids on their own standards?
Let them be kids
What are you afraid of? Think you can trust the other parents?
If you are paranoid you raise your daughter as paranoid as many answering here are?
When she asks why not, could you even give her half the reasoning NO - because you dont have one.
2006-11-06 22:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So what, let your daughter have her fun. She's 6 and unless thats the way you raised her nothing bad is going to happen.
2006-11-06 09:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say theres no problem with it, how old are they? 6. Is your daughter going to get pregnant? No. Does she even understand the concept of sex yet?
2006-11-06 09:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋