Two weeks ago my bf ask me to move in with him and I said no, he got angry, and said that I am not mature enough I don’t know what I want out of live, and he also said that he is not looking for just dating he want more out of life, he want to get married have kids. Ok he us only 20, he works at a department store, he smokes stuff, he doesn’t have money to have a house of his on and support a family yet, I make more money then him, I got to school full time. I didn’t want to heart his felling so I just said no I am not moving out yet because of school. And I older then him by 2 month , But we talked about it and he said that he will put everything on hold and he will see me as his gf, he used to see me as his wife but not after I said no. and he said he will give it a try again. So last Friday we went out to eat after work and he told me that his cousins were tacking him out that night I didn’t ask were I just said o ok. So after work I went home around 6.pm I was waiting for him to call me, but he didn’t call me ever since, last time I spoke to him was that Friday and today is Monday, I don’t want to call him, but I am just wandering what is going on?? Do u think he is done with me or he is waiting for me to call him. I can’t think anymore I can’t leave him alone everyone is saying he is not good for u but I don’t know how to leave him alone
2006-11-06 08:52:45 · 8 answers · asked by sweet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like this boy has abandonment issues. He's in a hurry to build a family life he never had and is probably smoking it up to forget how bad he had it. He took you saying no as a major rejection and is trying to get you to feeling guilty about it by not calling you. You sound like you have your life on track and made an adult decision. Be proud of yourself for being responsible and thinking of the long term. Don't get sucked into his childish games. If he really loves you, then he would understand that you aren't ready for that kind of move and work at your pace.
Love is always hard. Letting people we care of go can seem agonizing and takes a long time to get over. You've got a bright future ahead of you and a good man who will support you and love you.
2006-11-06 08:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its not over it should be. Two rules, don't marry anyone until you are at least 25 and have a career that you can survive on your own with the income from; and don't marry anyone under 25 or that doesnt have a career that they can survive on their own income from.
You are too young to get married. Finish school, start working, look around at the world before you get stuck living in an apartment trying to raise a baby while your pot smoking husband works overtime at the department store, so he can buy more pot.
2006-11-06 17:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by itzmedbd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you made the right decision to not move in with him. Moving in together and making babies isn't a sign of maturity, saying no when you want to say yes is. It sounds like he's bringing you down. I would seriously consider ending your relationship with him. He sounds very selfish and immature. Distract yourself with your own social life. Ask friends to go out, but kick him to the curb.
2006-11-06 17:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard to let go believe me, but seriously, the only person you can change is your self. Your boyfriend seems to want different things in his life then you do right now. and it seems like he's not responsible or mature for handling let alone himslef. i know its hard to let go especially if you care, but you can't change him and his disrespect for you, he's the only one that change himself, you need to break up or your life will be all over the place, and you seem like you can really go places. But not with him.
2006-11-06 17:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by dane-y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is the one who is not mature enough. He's probably still getting over being angry. But if it is over, from the way you describe the situation, it doesn't sound like you'd be missing much.
2006-11-06 16:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by GirlUdontKnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He kind of sounds like a loser to me. Why should you shack up with a man out of wedlock? I think you should decide to be done with him, rather than waiting for him to decide. You don't need this.
2006-11-06 16:57:01 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's not waiting for you to be ready for you to move in with him then he isn't worth it. that is a big step and you both have to be ready for anything to work out.
2006-11-06 16:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him don't worry about what ever one else says. Fallow you heart. It will lead you the right way!
2006-11-06 16:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋