My boyfriend of 2 years is going to Canada for a weekend with a bunch of his guy friends. I talked to one of them today and he told me they will prob be goin to the strip clubs and one of them if you pay 100.00 you can get laid. at first when I found out he was goin I was fine with it. But now since I know where they will be going. I feel as if he goes knowin how I would feel about it he won't care.. I am going to talk to him tonight about it and if he still wants to go I will feel so bad and hurt. idk what to do. I'm 24 years old and he's 27, and If i were to go to a strip club where they get fully nude he would be really mad..
2006-11-06 08:49:15 · 19 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I trust him with all my heart.. but I know how his friends are. They will sit there and get him to try to do whatever they want.
2006-11-06 08:52:46 · update #1
First of all it would cost him way more than $100.00 to get laid! Second..........For goodness sakes.get over it and let him go.......NOTHING IS GOING TO HAPPEN!!.....I promise you! I use to work at a club and the only thing those girls will be after is his money! And if he is dumb enough to hand it out........why not take it? Now, sometimes when we were off work we would go to the regular clubs and pick up guys! (that is when you should worry!) But business is business int he club. Please try to relax about it and let him have some stress free fun!
2006-11-06 08:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most Canadaian trips do include strip clubs... Canadian laws are much more relaxed and the girls in the strip clubs can do just about anything..... I would have to put my foot down on this one. If the 2 of you have been in a committed relationship for 2 years I would say that you are entitled to a say in this trip.
Under normal circumstances I would trust my man 100%... However, something chemically happens to men when they all get together and the beer starts flowing and naked women are around....
Best of Luck to you
2006-11-06 08:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK when you talk to him find out if what the friend said is true before going any further in the conversation. If he is just going to have fun w/ his buddies it's one thing but if he goes to get laid he has issues. I would not want my boyfriend sleeping w/ a stranger so I don't blame you for feeling hurt. It has nothing to do w/ trusting him it has everything to do w/ his loyalty to you & your relationship of 2 yrs. Make sure you tell him that it would hurt you for him to do something like that to you & let him put himself in your shoes ask him if he'd like it if you went away w/ your girlfriends & slept w/ a stripper how he would feel.
2006-11-06 09:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how it is. If my boyfriend were going to any kind of strip club, he'd be out the door so fast . . . And it sounds like he's a hypocrite too, if he would be mad if you went to a strip club, but he thinks he can go. You need to tell him how you feel about it and if he still goes, dump him!
2006-11-06 08:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by hope_a_long52886 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the guy benefit of doubt. It will probably be good for your relationship to show him that you trust him that much. You should take this as going to the movies or something similar. I'm sure he'll come back from Canada missing you like crazy. Don't stress too much.
2006-11-06 09:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by Mwaki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hair of the dog that bit you is always the best cure. Get a bunch of girlfriends and go out to a strip the weekend he's gone. You'll have so much fun, you'll forget all about him!
2006-11-06 08:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats a big conflict. If he really loved u he would have rejected the guys rather than being stupid and getting drunk with other girls. Talk to him seriously and if he doesn't listen fight back and go with some of r gal friends as well. Or divorce him (trust me im not crazy because i don't want to see u getting hurt as bad as i did honey)
2006-11-06 08:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by *StarFashion* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 09:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your man love you, he would not have sex with no one else. you can not be insecure in your relationship. is there a reason that you do not trust him? let him go on his trip for the weekend. sometimes when we pressure guys and not trust them, they will go out and do something because they feel that you don't trust them already, so why should they stay faithful.
2006-11-06 08:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by PRECIANA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, hold your chin up, smile and send him on his way. Don't be the nervous shrew. If you send him off angry or if he feels you don't trust him, that'll start a bad situation. If you just say "have fun" it shows you trust him - he won't do anything wrong. He has you! Now shut up about it and don't be jerky girlfriend - nobody likes those.
2006-11-06 08:53:55 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋