Do you wish your parents would have helped you get on birth control before it was too late? I know you wouldn't trade your baby for nothing in the world, but wouldn't it have been easier to wait a few years, like after high school? Daughter is sneeking out of her fathers house at night to go see boys. She says she just makes out and is still a virgin, but come on. We all know what happens eventually. Daughter doesn't want to be on birth control, but we told her that would be the responsible thing to do. Her father agrees. Should I take her in and make her get on it or what do you think?
2006-11-06 08:47:03 · 10 answers · asked by TK 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm her stepdad. She sneeks out when she is staying at her fathers house. He is a dumba s s. We have taken precautions to make sure she doesn't get out when she is with us. We wish she would have just went out on normal like dates. (Boy picks her up, has her home by certain time, etc..) We obviously can't trust her now though.
2006-11-06 09:02:02 · update #1
We have sat her down and calmly talked to her. She blew up at us and accused us of thinking she was having sex. We calmly asked, what do you think the boy expects when you sneek out in the middle of the night and go to their house to spend the night making out.?
2006-11-06 09:05:27 · update #2
I think you should. I mean she is clearly not responsible enough to want to be on it.....then she obviously would not have the maturity to deal with motherhood, should it happen anytime soon.
If you do put her on BC, I recommend Depovera. It is a shot that is administered every 3 months. That way you won't have to worry about...is she taking her pills, did she pull the patch off? ect...
I know it seems like a terrible pushy thing to do, but as parents our first concerns need to be our childrens safety and well being! And the other issue is preventing her from sneaking out. Knowing she is doing it and allowing it to continue sends the wrong message to her, and it allows herself to be put in the compromising situations we are talking about. That girl needs some discipline - or soon bc isn't going to be your biggest problem with her.
I am not a single mother now, but I did get pregnant when I was 17, with my son. No, I didn't stay with the father....it just wouldn't have worked. Yes, it would have been much easier to have to have waited, but such is life!
2006-11-06 10:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-28 20:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by sobczak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 17 year old nephew said he was absolutely NOT going to start having sex with his 15-year old girlfriend and refused to accept the condoms my sister tried to give him.
My sister went to the girl's parents and told them what she suspected was about to happen between her son and the girl (she had found some very provocative notes the girl had written him).
The parents took her to get birth control pills, but the 15-year old girl didn't want to take them, and the parents didn't press the issue.
Their baby is due in December. The children said she got pregnant the first time they had sex.
I would put her on depo-provera shots or the birth control implant that goes under the skin in her arm. This way, she will be on birth control whether or not she wants to be, and she can't sabotage this by not taking the pill. I doubt if she doesn't want to take the pills that she will do so every day. All she has to do is miss one pill per month and she could get pregnant.
Also, I would put a lock and alarm on the front door. Why are you letting this girl roam at night? She could get raped, murdered, take drugs, drink and drive, etc. Teenagers are too irresponsible to be let out all night on their own, doing god knows what. The parents job is to protect her, even if she doesn't like it.
2006-11-06 08:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by EmLa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you thik she is having sex then yes I would force her to get the shot, I have friends who had sex and got pregnant and wish their parents had forced them onto BC.
A thing you have to know is BC can fail, I can name plenty of people who have children and got pregnant on BC.
I was 17 when I had my baby and it was hard, I went from being a B and C student to an C and D student and I missed so many days, I barely made it out of high school and now having a 2 year old and being in college is even more rough because it is more work.
2006-11-06 08:52:29 · answer #4 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a baby at 16. (He's now 15) I was on birth control when I got pregnant. I would try and show her different birth control methods, there are many now besides the pill. Personally, I would not allow her to go out on dates, even group ones unless she was. (And I'd put an alarm on the windows and doors so she couldnt sneak out)
2006-11-06 08:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well talk to her about it in a calm way let her make her own decisions cause she is old enough... isn't she and
maybe she will find out dat she made the wrong decisions or she might think it was the right decision it's all part of growing up to mistakes and take responsibility from them.
2006-11-06 08:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by 561chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forcing someone on birth control is not going to help. It should be a decision that she wants to make. After all it's her body and most birth control options are hormonal and will affect her. She probably needs a friend right now instead of having authority figures treat her like an animal that needs to be fixed to "protect" her.
2006-11-06 08:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by penpallermel 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
well if it sur daughter then she needs 2 get on the pill cuz she is not going 2 listen 2 her parents and even if shes going 2 listen then what happens if she changes her mind...then its 2 late 4 the pill
2006-11-06 08:50:36 · answer #8 · answered by danielle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should just talk to her like woman to woman...i khow its difficult because u r here mother and not her friend but in order for u to make her agree with u u have to show her that u believe her and trust her...u must talk with your children...communication is everything
2006-11-06 08:51:45 · answer #9 · answered by -- 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can tell her to take them, and give her the pills, but how would you know if she will take them? good luck, i got on BC when i was 16, for my period, it helped with cramps and regulating, but I'm glad i started early~! :)
2006-11-06 08:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by southernparadise27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋