I want to get married to my gf I am from the united states but my girlfriend and her family live in mexico. They are from the state of Señora. What is the tradition for weddings? Whose family pays? I'm trying to figure out how to work this out. I havent proposed yet but we have talked about. Any suggestions. Where should I have the wedding? My family all lives in the usa in the west coast, Oregon, montana, Hawaii, I live in San Diego and my girlfriend lives in Tijuana, Mexico. Her family lives in Soñora and Mexico city.
2006-11-06 08:45:25 · 9 answers · asked by Justin J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Disregard the previous answers and read this...I am Mexican, not of Mexican descent, I am Mexican ok...lol, got married in Mexico, I know how it works.
I really do know what weddings are like down there since I just got married two years ago. Here's how it goes:
Groom or Groom's Family: they pay for the Civil Marriage (in front of a judge) and for the Church Ceremony. If the Groom or his family want to have a separate party for the Civil Ceremony they may do so, or only pay for the judge to marry you on the same day at the reception venue.
The Groom pays for the Bride's dress and veil. He may contribute to paying the rest of the clothes or garments worn that day but isn't required to.
The Groom or his Family pay for the honeymoon.
The Bride or her family: They pay for the rest of the deal, invitations, the reception, alcohol, food, flowers, decorations, music (dj's are in nowadays, and much cheaper than live bands), favors, wedding pictures and video, etc.
Nowadays you can arrange to split the costs or do it the traditional way.
My wedding was in Mexico City at San Agustin's Church an the Intercontinental Hotel. I got married one week before at my in-laws home in front of the judge and then had a little cocktail party.
It is customary to get married at the Bride's hometown, but you two can decide to get married wherever you want, and wherever it is practical for you two and your families.
If you need extra info on Mexican weddings and know Spanish or want your girlfriend to check this out, it might also help:
www.nosotros2.com
www.nuestraboda.com
www.planeandotuboda.com
Good luck! and Congrats...enjoy everything!
P.S. the correct spelling is Sonora, Señora means Mrs.
2006-11-06 14:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by White 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm of Mexican descent and have seen a lot of traditional Mexican weddings and more modern interpretations in my own family.
Traditional "old school" weddings were usually paid for by the groom and his family. The wedding usually takes place in a church with a special mass for the occasion. Within the wedding ceremony are traditions like the lighting of a candle, exchange of coins (arras)between the two to signify sharing the household,etc. and a "lazo" a fancy pearl rope that goes around the bride and groom to "tie" the two of them together.
After wards is the all important receptions with dinner (Mexican food would be important), dancing, live music ,etc. It is an all day affair!
It sounds expensive but the "padrinos" are family or friends who are honored with helping pay for some of the expenses. For example the madrina who helps pay for the dress, food, or even does the decorations and party favors. It's a way for the community and loved ones to be part of the wedding.
The most important thing is that the families are joined together and become one. Talk with your partner about the traditions that are important to her and her family. I think it would be cool to have your wedding in Mexico. In any case, somewhere that both families can meet at economically will be best.
Felicidades!
2006-11-06 13:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by R! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in Mexico the wedding is paid for by the father and groom in your case yourself and your dad. The bride is not expected to pay for anything, however times have changed and you can both pay for your wedding and or stick with the also traditional padrinos (aka sponsors ).
I come from a Mexican background as well as my fiance and we are only having the padrinos for the church, but we are paying for everything else on our own. I would recommend you talk it over with your girlfiend.
Good luck and congratulations!
2006-11-06 09:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by MARY 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well I came late to this post and agree with everyone's replies. Make sure to brush up on your espanol so that you can communicate with her family and not confuse each other.
One thing for sure, make sure you ask her father for her hand in marriage and in person,
2006-11-06 21:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by Veronica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually the girls family pays for the wedding the guys family pays for the honeymoon
2006-11-06 08:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make sure you have tons of tex mex foods and most important the green card for her...you will need it...and then sponsor her whole entire family to the USA. Then she will divorce you and take all of your money for her family..good luck chum
2006-11-06 12:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
1 mariachi band; 30 pardinos; 42 hootchi mamas; 24 drunks; 12 fights; 1 cow; and lots and lots and lots of cerveza & taquilla. reception should be in your backyard.
2006-11-06 08:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Ok, it's not "Soñora" it's "sonora"....Mexican weddings are BIG...congratulations and good luck! :-)
2006-11-06 08:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by laurel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.virtualvallarta.com/vallarta/articles/ss01-traditionalweddings.html
http://www.weddingclipart.com/guide/wedding-themes/Mexican-Theme-Wedding.html
http://www.weddingconnections.com/tips/wedtraditions/mexican.htm
2006-11-06 09:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by Lax Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋