ok . . . my gf broke up with me back in march and said she wanted to date around and see whats out there and all that good stuff after a 2 year relationship. . she starts dating this kid i went to high school with 2 weeks later . . . i hate the kid so its obviously a bad situation for me . . . so i try to get her back for about 2 months and in the middle of june i went NC . . on our 2 year anniversery at the beginning of july she send me a text that says . . "today was two year" just to remind me of it i guess . . . and ever since that text she has been calling/texting/leaving voicemail/or emailing me once atleast ever 2-3 weeks . . . a few times in was 2-3 times in a week . . . i have not responded to her or anything . . . so its been 5 months and its still going on .. .she is still with this same guy so she obviously knows we cant be friends be cause of the situation.. . . . . .so why does she keep trying to contact me?. .
Additional Details
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when they first started dating she even admitted part of the reason was because he was there and she hates being alone
2006-11-06 08:39:14 · 15 answers · asked by lbsf2904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well that really sucks
why would she do that to you
wasnt she happy
I think u should move on
if she reallllllllly loved u
she wouldnt leave u to go SEE whats there out
ex:if she really cared she should only care about u
and not whats outside the WORLD
2006-11-06 08:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems very insecure and could possibly be a little crazy or just a... She doesn't want to be alone so she was quick to find someone new after calling it quits with you and she wants to stay in touch with you because it's always nice to have a back-up plan when situations fail again. She feels comfortable with you since you guys were together for so long and since there really was no real reason for the break-up besides her just trying to find someone better than you which is what it really is when you think about it. She's thinking well if I can't find anyone better than I guess I'll just go back to him... and when you finally find someone new she's going to make life for you and your new girl an absolute hell... believe me my husband and I live it!!! Forget her and keep telling her that. She blew it with you, she should have realized then what she had but, she decided to screw herself...don't be the back-up or safe-house, stick to your guns she's nothing but a s***!
2006-11-06 16:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by mrsross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Responding to the additional details first: If she hated being alone, she shouldn't have broken up with you.
As far as the original question, your ex gf is trying to string you along...like a puppy. Good for you to not respond to her text messages and voicemails. Don't contact her!
Good luck!
2006-11-06 17:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Cool-K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She either wants to get back with you or she just wants to be friends with you...What I don't understand is why she keeps contacting you even though she has a boyfriend..She should probally break up with him and then ask you out instead...I don't think you should keep in touch with her unless she's truly in love with you..Because the only reason people should date is to find their true love..
2006-11-06 16:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but you don't recognize a "double-timer" when you see one? She likes the other b/f, and you are only the back-up guy in case this relationship fails. She wants to keep you on her back burner, plan B, when she gets in touch with you. Get another g/f and get over with her game.
2006-11-06 16:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's confused, she wants what she can't have. If you want her back then make a move-let her know that if she wants to be w/ you she'll have to leave that other dude. But if your not interested in her than tell her that she broke it off and that she's the one w/ a bf. She needs to leave you alone and let you go.
2006-11-06 16:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you got it on the nail, you said that she told you she hates to be alone..do lots of soul searching. I think she felt lonely on you 2 anniversary and broke your heart,do you want that again? do not waist your time with her mind games calling and etc..do not be her door mat I am 43 and had lots of experience with people like her.
take care
2006-11-06 17:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by Dove4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very needy and immature. She needs to keep you on a string as her back up. I would get a new phone number and seriously move on with your life. Life is too short and who knows WHO you're missing out on by pinning after this needy woman who broke up with you!
2006-11-06 16:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Text her with, YOU dumped me remember! Some girls like to play games. Let her know that she f-ed up and you are done. Don't let her do it to you. You can get a girl that will be with you unconditionally. Tell her to get a life.
2006-11-06 16:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to quit calling and texting you. If that doesn't work, get a new number.
2006-11-06 16:41:18 · answer #10 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋