My boyfriend got a tattoo after i told him not too. Should I be mad.
2006-11-06 08:38:07 · 45 answers · asked by needanswers 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1) It's his body. While he acted out of line, it is still his body. You are not his mother.
2) Should you be mad? If you are upset, you need to tell him. Do you need us to tell us whether or not you should be mad? You already know how you feel!!
3) COMMUNICATE with your boyfriend. Ask him why. And the most important part is to listen to him.
2006-11-06 08:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remember that you are only in control of you. You cannot control him or others. When you do want control, it's to keep things or change things to your way. This isn't good. All you can do is express your feelings....in a mature, nice way without snapping and then either let it go or you move on if it really bothers you that much. You have to decide for yourself whether his tattoo is a deal breaker for you or if you can live with it even if you don't like it. If you have sound reasons, hopefully he'd be willing to discuss it rationally with you. Again, if his reasons differ from yours, you have to accept them or move on without him.
Trying to control a boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse is never the answer.
2006-11-06 08:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he will do what he wants to do. If the tattoo is of other than a girls name, I won't be concern. What if he had tattooed your name on his body? Would you be mad at him? If you try to control this b/f, he will get tired and leave you.
2006-11-06 08:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by Woman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well....if it's something that you had discussed and agreed that he wouldn't do it then yes you have a right to be mad....however...being mad really isn't going to do much for you or your relationship. But maybe it will give you a chance to re evaluate your relationship. I mean, the whole point of dating is to see if you are compatible to be married....and you may want to look at it as "do I want to marry a guy that after we reach a decision together he's going to turn around and do something else"?
Good luck!
2006-11-06 08:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by laurel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why are you TELLING him not to do something. You can express your opinion or feelings, but you aren't his mom. And, no you shouldn't be mad. I am sure you do things that drive him crazy too. Don't be that girl! Trust me, it will only get you dumped. Noone wants to be with a control freak. AND, it doesn't mean he doesn't care about your feelings, just he wanted to get a tattoo. Open your mind up a bit.
2006-11-06 08:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG! How can you be mad? I don't understand how a tatoo can cause problems? Unless it is a tatoo of woodstock on his pecker. When he gets excited does the bird grow? No, don't be mad just get even. Run out and get a big fish put on your....umm back yeah....back! And just enjoy the art. Make love to it like Bo duke does to the General Lee! Yeeeeeeeehaw!
2006-11-06 08:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been dating and why did you tell him not to? Would you ask his permission before you change your hair color? Would you change it if he said to leave it alone, but you really wanted to?
This could be an indicator that he doesn't care what you think, but if you just started dating, why should he? This is a personal decision that he should have thought about for a while. Why should he change his mind just for you? Of course, if he got the idea last week, he's an impulsive idiot and you should dump him before he gets you in trouble.
2006-11-06 08:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, did you teach him to sit up and beg too? May if you put his nose in it he won't get anymore tattoos. Are you one of those girlfirends that dresses her boyfriend.
It's his body...if you were married, I can see it being a different story. You can't really tell anyone what to do...you can just make a suggestion. People are going to do what they want to do.
But if you do get mad, you can always use this for emotional blackmail. Grow up.
2006-11-06 08:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by -J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not unless it's someone else's name.
Seriously, you "told him not to" What kind of crap is that? You can't have a healthy relationship when one tries to control the other. It is his body after all. That's like him telling you that you cannot get a piercing, whether its ears, bellybutton, anything.
I had a boyfriend who once told me that I couldnt cut my hair....saw me the next day and I had donated a little over a foot of my hair to the Locks of Love.
2006-11-06 08:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by Barbi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband and I were dating he went out and got one and it pissed me off to no end...Today, I hardly even notice it. You can be mad, but what can be done about it now? What's done is done and it is permenant. The only reason I would be mad is if it had the name of a woman (even me) in it. That is just tacky.
2006-11-06 08:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋