How can you cheer yourself up after a close relitive has died?

Question

My Grandad has died recently on the 2nd november
I am only 11 and i miss him very much
He died suddenly on the sofa
he was in his 60's
I cannot stop thinking about him
I loved him soooo much

Answer 1

Try to do things that you enjoy and maybe it will help keep your mind off of it. I know you'll miss him but he wouldn't want you down here crying over him. He would want you to have fun. It will take a while but if you start finding a healthy way to grieve now then you will be better off.

Answer 2

Yes there is. Think of all the happy times you spent with your Grandad. You may find yourself crying but its good to remember all the good times. At only 11 it is so hard for you as you are starting to growing into a young adult. Your life is at the beginning and your Grandad's has just ended. Talk to your Mum and Dad to as they will also be feeling sad. You are feeling more sad because it was sudden and it has been a terrible shock for you and your family. Very slowly the pain will subside and you will be left with those wonderful happy memories that will live with you forever. I feel for you.

Answer 3

My Grandad, on my mother's side, was my favourite relative of a very large extended family. I loved him dearly. When he died I was devastated and now, nearly forty years later, I still miss him. However, and this might help you in your sadness. I wrote down all I could remember about him (on the computer), stories, poems, things he said and done - hundreds of things. Since doing so, I now remember him, not as dead, but as a living, lively, funny, joking man who helped make me what I am today.
Try the poem I wrote about him: (he was a country man and a wonderful (white) liar:

Granddad’s Sound Advice.

Granddad Gorman was the one, who taught me many things,
Wild animals and creatures, the songbirds’ notes it sings,
And how to make a jackdaw imitate your voice,
Although the way to do it, wasn’t very nice.

How to catch a pheasant, when you didn’t have a gun,
Of how to train Jack Russell’s and teach them where to run.
Especially in damp weather, when feathers they were wet,
The twinkle in Granddad’s eyes, it makes me wonder yet.

Were they all white lies, would he be joking you?
For the beauty of a good lie, is that most of it be true,
Soak corn in homemade whiskey, then leave it for the co*ck,
Then wait for him to eat it, and fall down from the shock.

Or soak the corn in water, then thread it with horsehair,
Then once again you leave it out, in the open air,
For the fowl to eat it and if the hair ne’er broke,
He’d gobble up the offering, and no doubt he would choke.

But the truest bit of wisdom, that he ever told,
Was how to judge a woman, before she grew too old,
‘Before you wed a woman’ he said with quite a shudder,
‘Stand back and have a bloody good look – not at her – her mother’
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God bless Ragtag, and may he rest in peace.................

Answer 4

You are doing the right thing by thinking a lot about him. Its normal that you feel bad because you lost someone you loved very much, that's okay. There's an old saying that goes like this, "If you keep someone in your heart and think about them they never really leave us" It's kind of like pretending their on vacation. The missing part will get better with time, and someday you will just think back about all the good times you had with your grand pa. Be well, and God Bless.

Answer 5

maybe you could ask your relatives for photos of him and make a collarge, or you could plant a tree or bush in his memory and buy some little oiniments to go next to it and this could be a special place that you feel close to him and can go when you miss him, get relatives to tell you stories about him, but you know that he wouldnt want you to be unhappy what would he say to you right now if he knew how sad you were, im sure he is near by watching over you and visits from time to time just because you can't see him any more doesnt mean he isnt in your life, if you try this and none of it helps you feel better maybe you could talk to someone and they could council you and help you come to terms with your loss, good luck and hope you feel better soon

Answer 6

That is a really awful thing to happen and you must be very sad.

It is very important to realise that all your feelings are ok. even if you are angry, very sad, or happy it is important to go through all these emotions as you have lost someone very dear to you but as long as you have memories a little bit of him will live on in you.

The thing to remember is how much you loved him and he loved you - he would want you to have a good life - it has only been a few days and soon you will be happy again, but don't worry you will never forget him.

I know how it feels and its not nice but it will get better.

Answer 7

I lost someone very close to me this year also. The thing that I found help me the most is I think about all of the good times that we shared. Remember all of the laughs he brought you. It will make you laugh and you will begin to feel better. It takes time to get better though. You will cry somedays and somedays you wont. Just remember he loved you and he would want you to be happy.

Answer 8

Your Grandad is not dead he is locked in your heart ! close your eyes and you can talk to him any time that you want.
You will know that he hears you because you will feel a warm glow inside and you will know that he is cuddling you, just feel happy that you will meet him again at sometime in the future until then be happy and enjoy your life the way that he did !
One day your grand children will miss you but i'm sure that you would not want them to be unhappy ?

Answer 9

and thinking Abbot him is all u can do .. remember him as mush as u can and that he love u all that mush ... and don't be sad because we all know that the after life is way better than this and that he had a peacefully death

he will be with u forever as long as u remember him ....

i hope i never stop missing my grandad .. who was my Santa in Crysta's and my chess partner .. who was the friend that show me who was the Beatles and how cool Beethoven really was ....

and be happy because u were able to be at the end with your family because when my die i was far far away

Answer 10

I know its hard I lost my grandma when I was 9 years old I do remember everything from that day I'm 24 now so you never will forget and I think about her all the time but time will help.. and they know you loved them .. just think they are in a better place now and you will see them again .. never forget but you have to move on with your life for you and they are watching you .. so they are always with you .. I'm so sorry for your loss but it will get better.. god bless..