and a cousin when I was a child and at early teen age.I have become cyber sex addict. I still fantasize about them. I am practically afraid of girls and I have no girl friend. Please advice what should I do. Many girls show interest in me but I am shy. I want to stop cyber sex but I cannot do this. Fantasy of my aunts remained in my mind. I don’t know what can I do to stop this?
2006-11-06 08:15:46 · 10 answers · asked by UnderstandingLife 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think you could try talking to a counsellor. As for stopping cyber sex, you could do it. It is easier to stop than smoking as your body doesn't depend on it. It is your mind. Believe me, if your mind could make you addicted to cyber sex, it could also make you stop this addiction. It is our subconscious at work and if you keep repeating to yourself what you want to change in your life, you will succeed. I think you should confront your cousin and your aunts and tell them how much harm their selfish acts have done to you. Tell them and tell yourself that you're not going to let them ruin your life and any prospect for a happy family with a girl who loves you and ask them to get out of your life (both for real and symbolically). They should be made to feel very guilty about what they did to you. It's the right punishment for them! Anytime you start fantacizing about them, tell yourself they are two very wicked, heartless and selfish women and they have no place in your life. I agree with one of the people who answer your question that maybe you should consider reporting this to the police but, first of all, arrange a session with a counsellor first.
2006-11-06 08:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone suggested you file suit against the aunts and the cousin. It might be difficult to prove abuse after all this time - difficult but not impossible and very expensive and time-consuming. But it's your decision.
I think your main concern should be your own psychological health. If your health insurance requires a referral to Mental Health Services, get one from your primary care doctor. If it doesn't require this, make the phone call to cutomer service at your insurance provider and get the number for Mental Health.
Make the call now. There's no reason for you to live this way because of what others have done to you.
2006-11-06 08:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by TweetyBird 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am not trying to be rude, but you should probably seek professional help. Sometimes therapy can help someone with a sexual abusive past. Good luck, and seek help A.S.A.P. They are confidential most of the time, and maybe can help solve your dilemma.
2006-11-06 08:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by freakykittygoddess 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You really need to seek out professional help for this-counselors can really help you overcome this obstacle, and help you attain a normal healthy life. Admitting you have this problem is the first step-now go and be proactive, find yourself a counselor.
2006-11-06 08:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by Adelie G 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are in dire need of therapy. I would also recommend contacting the police to see if there is any legal follow-up after this amount of time. These people are disgusting and need to be arrested.
2006-11-06 08:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
HEY< YOU SEEM LIKE A NICE PERSON TO ME !!!
don't worry anymore try to relax look what happened to you was bad and you will never forget it so this means you have to get over it by this i mean you need the help of someone who understands you someone who will love you by who you are!!
this was not you're fault remember this IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!!! you are probably a beautiful person from the inside and you are not letting anyone see it. look everyone makes mistakes and has the opportunity to start over !!!
huggzzz
2006-11-06 08:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by *********** 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Talk to someone. Tell someone you trust or a licensed therapist.
2006-11-06 08:26:50 · answer #7 · answered by blueskys 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
wow that must be hard on you. maybe you should try talking to someone who understands you and that person might be able to help you.
2006-11-06 08:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by bullface7 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
find you a couple of beutiful girl to do and engage in your fantasy and nurse you back to reality.
2006-11-06 08:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by Barrett m 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
sue them. that is a pretty good case.
2006-11-06 08:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by Milos K 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋