This may be long, so i apologize now. It also may be a little weird to some.anyways, me and my husband have been married for a couple years but have been together for a lot longer. we have a good relationship, but i am kind of keeping one thing from him because i am embarassed about it.See, i love it when he touches, kisses or massages my stomach. i want him to do it alot more because it turns me on. what do i say to him to not sound like a freak, but to also let him know what i really like? i am afraid that once i tell him, it will be awkward or something? i hope someone else understands this so i don't sound like a weirdo. thanks for reading this and for the input.
2006-11-06 07:55:00 · 42 answers · asked by kendra w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give him a nice "non-sexual" foot massage one night, and just in conversation ask him where his favorite place is to be touched or massaged..........and then just "in passing" add that your favorite place is your stomach........and then just go on to another subject. By getting the information to him in a "matter of fact" way, it allows him to file this jewel of information for later.....and I promise he will remember.
He'll probably think to himself, "I'll remember that in case she's not in the mood one night"........and then when he finally makes that move, you need to make it clear how great it feels......and then you'll be just fine.
Nothing embarrassing about that approach is there?
Good luck!
Robin_in_Tennessee
2006-11-06 08:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is great that you want to communicate with your husband like that. Now a great way to communicate things like that would be to do this:
Each of you write down things that each of you really like. For instance, "kissing or massaging of the stomach" - "playing of the breasts" so on and so forth. Make sure that each of you have written some things down.
Now the key is to make sure that you do not get embarassed or act differently when he suggests something. Make sure each of you keep an open mind about this.
It is never fun to have a fantasy or thing you like be laughed at or frowned apon.
- Also another way that you could communicate that is if you let them know by dropping little hints when they do that. - Such as just moaning or whispering into his ear that you like that.
Have fun with each other and experimenting is key to a interesting love life.
2006-11-06 08:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by offspringkin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very shy as well. I have been married for 9 1/2 years and I am just now starting to tell my husband what I like and what I don't because, just like you I am shy and don't want him to think I am a horny freak or something. I communicated with my husband by telling him, ok I like that or no I don't like that. Trust me when I say, he will not make it awkward or make you feel like a freak, see men are only guessing on what we shy women like or don't like. He will defiantly appreciate you helping him figure out your likes and dislikes. It wont be awkward unless you make it awkward. You sound happy with your husband and by communicating your likes and dislikes will only bond you that much more. Good luck!
2006-11-06 08:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing weird about it, more than likely he'd want to know anyway so he can do something that really pleases you. why not when you are beginning to get intimate you guide his hand or mouth to your stomach believe me it will be a great turn on for him too that you are taking control a little. never be afraid to share your wants and needs with him it might be a little 'weird' at first voicing it but in the long run you both will benefit.
2006-11-06 07:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's nothing bad and you shouldn't be embarassed about it at all. Just say you know "baby, i really love it when you touch and massage my stomach" if you want to say more do if not just leave it at that. I'm sure he'll be thrilled to know what "turns you on" Good luck
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2006-11-06 07:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by anab113 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You told us this anonomously, so why can't you tell your main love? Being a guy, I prefer to know what turns my girl on. It makes it easier for me and she gets exatcly what she wants.
I have been with girls that like extremely more bizaar stuff then this anyway. I had one that loved to have her ear licked, another that loved having sex in public places, and a couple that loved anal sex. These are much more bizaar than stomach touching.
Tell him, trust me. The stomach is an easy, place to access. Its could be like a sex button for him. He gives one push on the belly -button, and voila! you both know where things are going to go.
Sex is fun, experiment and hold nothing back!
2006-11-06 08:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by mshart2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definately bring it up and I'm sure he'll want to know and appreciate you telling him what you like because that way he can better please you and you can tell him also that you want to know what it is he likes or wants more of. Communication is key to any and all relationships. Just go out there and say it girl don't be afraid! Speak your mind.
2006-11-06 08:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by Sea -N-Sun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with knowing what excites you, since that is your husband you should have no worries, or anxiety about tellling him what you would like him to do. if the tables were turned and he wouldn't tell you something like that, how would you feel? i know that you may not know how to tell him, the easiest way is to mention it in a flirty type of way- hey babe, u know what i want you to do to me, or email, or text him if you can't bear to tell him in person. that's going to bring you to closer, because he will be surprised to learn a new way to turn you on, and you'll get the pleasure you desire- it sounds like a win- win situation
2006-11-06 08:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not fee embarrassed one lil bit. Tell your husband how much you love his passinate kisses on your tummy. Believe me he will love that you told him! I tell my husband what I love, he always asks me anyway, and when I do he gives it to me alot. Men are trying to find out what there girl likes. If you still feel uncomfortable about telling him outright, pick a time when youre both cuddling. Ask him to tell you what he loves you to do to him, then have him ask you what you like..now you can tell him about your wants and desires, what he does to turn you on! (wink) You wont sound like a freak...or be awkward to your hubby. Your man sounds like he loves you dearly, Im sure he wants to know your deepest fantasy.
2006-11-06 08:02:10 · answer #9 · answered by Such A Chicka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't weird. Everyone has "Those Things" that turns one on so to speak. Some like there feet massaged. Some like there ears nibbled on. Others like a wandering tongue and fingers... Be brave and do something he likes then ask him to return the favor...
2006-11-06 08:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by Scott 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋