I am in my 30's & is engaged to a sweet guy who's in his 30's. He still lives with his folks. He has a good job & doesn't take drugs or drink. In away I am glad that he didn't leave his parents house because if he did he would have met the wrong woman, had a bad marriage & ended up in divorce. He always helpes his folks with bills, house work, gardening & many other things. But at times have notices he asks his parents approval on many things. Espcially he asks his dad ideas even on our wedding plans & if his father sugests something he goes with that idea. He doesn't close the door when he's changing cloths when his folks are in the house & his room is right next to his parents.My honey is a sweet man & we are in love. I asked him if he'd be sad when he leaves his parents house after we get married. He said no & he should have left long time ago & he is glad he's leaving. When talking to him it seems like we'd be spending alot of time at his folks after we get married. Is love blind?
2006-11-06 07:45:40 · 9 answers · asked by Hot C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is very blind and strange just like him......weirdo.
2006-11-06 07:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do think it is wonderful that he is concerned about his parents, and that he helps them out like he does, however...I also think he shouldn't have to seek their approval for anything. He is a 30 year old man, and hopefully after the wedding, he will still be good to his folks, but committed to you, his wife.As long as you come first in his life, and seeks your approval first...you will be OK. I'm just wondering, if he said he would've left a long time ago, what was stopping him?
2006-11-06 07:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
,"Modern" societies are obsessed with their rejection to the extended family (grand pa, father and son living together). I believe that living with the people that raised you is normal, it is a way to show you care for them (cause lets face it: when we get old, we need some extra help). The man you love cares about his family, you should be proud, you (it seems) have a different view, which I do not share, although I respect. You both need to talk, in order to know how the other conceives the family relationship, cause if you have totally different ideas you should get worried. You love that man, he loves you, I have the intuition you will appreciate the relation he has with his family and he will understand that you have different values
2006-11-06 08:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by El que pregunta 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a mummy's boy but how do you know he wont change all that when your married, are you willing to take a chance as you say love is blind so had you not better take the blinkers off and then try out a few things that would test his feelings for you because you come first when the bid day arrives
2006-11-06 07:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think he should be so attached even with the changing clothes thing (especially.) i think you shouldn't really go to ur in-laws a lot. not in a way as in move a state away, but he needs to let go otherwise u will end up w/ a life dominated by ur inlaws. try to steer away form that mych attachment.
2006-11-06 07:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by blah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set some guidelines with him BEFORE you are married, I've been down that road and unless you both discuss your expectations about these things BEFORE the wedding, you will end up unhappy
2006-11-06 07:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by elfkin, attention whore 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
um well considering hes 30 i would be alittle worried, they are his comfort zone so they are there for life.
2006-11-06 07:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah bigtime tell him enuf with the breast feedin and get his own place,better for both of ya.
2006-11-06 07:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Umm...yes,no,yes,yes,no,yes,YES
2006-11-06 07:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by larry h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋