My first question was this:
The man i was in love w/ has been cheating on me for the past 5 months. How do i deal? Please read on...?
He told me he loved me and wanted to marry me but i found out he has been living w/ another woman and they have a 18 month old baby. And we all work at the same hospital! But in 3 different positions and floors. I really loved him how do i deal w/ this???? The only reason i found out was because the woman called me after she found my number in his phone and read the text we sent each other!!
Ok well now he called me today (3 weeks later!) and wanted to explain hisself. We talked on the phone for like 30 minutes and we came to the conclusion that we should start off again as friends. Was that right? What should i do?
2006-11-06 07:43:05 · 18 answers · asked by Brandy B. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We never had sex or anything
2006-11-06 07:46:14 · update #1
don't talk to him anymore. u said u loved him..ur emotions are way too biased for him now.... the minute he sweettalks u and lies, u will become putty in his hands!! being friends is just a fake way of saying he wants to get it on again. u have to be careful... remember that he LIed and Cheated and had a Baby w/ someone else, behind ur back! that's messed up towards that lady AND you!!! how can the "one u love" be that kind of person?? u need to have respect for yourself and give him up..so that u can find someone u Deserve. yes you may love him...that is great for him. but what about u? does he take care of u? is he able or willing to? what about his baby and baby momma???
too much drama! if i were u, i'd tell him to leave me alone forever and to take care of his new son. also, i would just work on myself: work out, wear makeup, take care of myself, buy some flattering clothes. make sure I look BEAUTIFUL so i FEEL beautiful (even tho losing someone u love is really hard!). next, i would study or try to excel in work or hobbies.....to get my mind off of him. finally, i would throw myself into meeting new people, having good relationships w/ family, friends, and friends of friends, even strangers. because u are Confident, and Smart, u will definitely be a great catch. all u need now is to have expectations for ur future man to also be a great catch! this guy sounds like a skeezer!!! good luck, and find someone who is Trustworthy!!!
2006-11-06 07:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not try the "friend" thing. If you want to let him down easy (which he doesn't deserve), simply tell him that your feelings are too raw right now, he needs to give you time to heal. There may come a time in the future when you can be friends with him, but you need to get on with your life first.
Even if you didn't sleep together, he was living with someone else and led you to believe otherwise. If he did it to her, he will do it to you. He will be lucky if you both don't tell him to take a hike! And how much could he possibly care about his baby if he would treat the baby's mother like this?
Have a good cry and move on! You are worth more than that.
2006-11-06 07:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 08:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you trust him again? I know youre not a glutton for punishment correct?
That man needs serious help. He is one selfish human being to pull something like that with you and another woman with his 18 month old child! Do you want to be next? the woman with the 18 month old child calling the mistress number you found on his cell phone. If so then you keep on being 'friends' with him.
Cmon you smarter than that...
2006-11-06 07:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it wasn't right. You should cut off all contact with him. The only chance that child has for a normal life is for his parents to make their relationship work. Having you in the picture just makes that harder, if not impossible.
Aside from that, you already know that the guy is lying, cheating jerk. Why do want someone like that as a "friend"?
2006-11-06 07:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Totally stay away from him. He was and still wants to use you. If you were living with a man and he did this to you would you want him staying friends with her? No. so the best thing you can do for all concerned, especially yourself is to never see him again. Keep in mind there is a baby involved.
2006-11-06 07:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhhhh, NO it wasn't right. You should leave this guy behind all together. He is not worth your time. It will be hard having to work with him, but maybe you can find ways to avoid him. Atleast until you can get through the hurting process that goes along with lost loves.
2006-11-06 07:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by Ambrosia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No dont go back to him its just going to happen agian and soon enough you'll be heart broken and depressed so dont fall for him agian let him live with the other woman and let him raise a child and be an idot for getting himself into this so GIVE HIM UP!!!!!!!!\
Cali
2006-11-06 07:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him now then why do you thing you could trust him later down the road of life.
You can be friend but watch your back.
An old saying, "Once a cheater always a cheater."
I know because I have been there myself.
2006-11-06 07:55:05 · answer #9 · answered by Preacher's Daughter 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG he is an Evil SOB. once a cheater always a cheater. Honey you need to move on and forget about this man. he has bigger things he should be worrying about like his baby.
2006-11-06 07:46:57 · answer #10 · answered by mmh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋