Question for the single parents?

Question

Would you be more willing to date someone who already has kids, or someone who doesn't have kids?

If you choose the first one, would you be more willing to date someone if they were good with kids, but didn't have them?

I don't have kids, but a guy I am interested in does.

Answer 1

if you have children then you can't discriminate on someone else that has children, if you don't have children don't let your decision on dating them be influenced by the fact that they have children, if you want to be with them, then be there, but you have to be cautious because when you deal with someone with children you will eventually have to establish a relationship with the children, if it's just a fling then don't worry, but if you want something long term then you'd better like kids because they will help mom or dad determine wether your right for them. remember it's a package deal when someone has children- would you really want to deal with someone you know has children but aren't invovled in their lives? if they don't have children but are good with them then you know what you could expect in the event you two had a child together.

Answer 2

Once you have children, you see the world in a totally different light. I have a four year old daughter and have dated women with children and women without children since then. I find myself caring about their children more so now than I would have had I not had a daughter. But to be honest, I prefer a woman without children now because I know the problems that could occur when you get involved with someone who has children and the father/mother is still very active in their lives. Sometimes, that jealousness from their other mate is something you can really do without.

Answer 3

I would only date someone with kids if they were grown and out of the house. Even though I have a son at home and would want them to be good to my son. (Kinda double standard. Sad but true)

Answer 4

Okay.... I am seeing a man with a 7 year old girl. My daughter is 5. I don't necessarily feel more comfortable with him, but on the other hand... if he was mean to or treated children bad or as if they were a bug... then there's no way I would speak to him, much less date him.

Answer 5

Great Question!

I've dated both. My most memorible, best mate had children close to my children's ages & the same gender. We didn't plan it - it just happened. And everyone got along wonderfully! I couldn't have asked for more from him or his kids. I hope to find a simular situation someday...

My advice to you is, make sure that YOU like him/her enough to introduce them to your kids. It shouldn't matter if they have children or not. If this person is a potential life partner, then he/she will have to accept your kids just like you!

Answer 6

I am no longer a single parent but i was at one time. I would date ither as long as they were good with children. I meet my hubby when my Girl was three and the way he was with her sealed the deal. We have been together for 8 years and we have had two more children together.

Answer 7

I have 2 kids of my own, and don't want anymore. So I either want to date someone who has one or two and doesn't want anymore, or one who doesn't want any but doesn't mind mine. Unfortunately, that cuts down the field considerably. Ah well. I'll live, I guess.

Answer 8

Whether or not a person has kids is not the defining point, but if he has kids and does not have a consistent relationship with them ,he definitely won't with yours.

Answer 9

It doesn't matter if they have kids or not, but they must like kids after we have them.

Answer 10

most likely they would have kids too... its hard to get someone without kids to be able to accept yours