weve been together 2yrs&been through a lot hes so good to me but deep down i know hes not the one..i dont wana hurt or loose him..help!!
2006-11-06 07:37:16 · 23 answers · asked by NightOwl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
break up, life is too precious to waste
2006-11-10 07:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very similar to what I have been through recently. Perhaps a break to give you some space and time to think what you really want will help. If you know he is not the one then you are better to break up with him sooner rathern than later. The bottom line is there is no nice way to break up with someone. If you do it now you will hurt him but it will be better in the long run. If you dont you will hurt him more later on. I would take some time out to think. Good luck :-)
2006-11-06 15:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think he is the one, then you should break up - you are not going to make him or yourself happy by staying together if you are just feeling sorry for him.... It will be very difficult at first for both of you, but time heals in the end and who knows, you might be able to stay friends with him.
I lived with a guy for 18 months and decided that he wasn't the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with - it was hard at first but we have stayed friends - not best buddies or anything, but we chat on the phone now and again.
we are both engaged now to different people, but I really like the memories of the good things while we were together....
2006-11-06 15:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lupee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BREAK IT OFF. ur gonna hurt him SO much more more if u wait and "use" him til u find someone new. =T that sucks. if u really care about him, then let him go.. so that he can find someone who will truly love him, and u can find someone who IS the "one".
i have this rule: don't talk about marriage until 1 1/2 years into ur relationship. if one person, or both, are unsure about marriage, then u should break it off. this is to ensure u don't spend too long together with no specific goal of marriage in mind and saves some heartache years down the road... also it helps both of u to find someone who DOES make u want to marry them!!! that is so important...... sometimes loving someone is letting them go if u know ur not able to give them ur best. good luck
2006-11-06 15:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi i know it is going to hurt him but tell him the truth you will only regret it you are stuck in a relationship with somebody you don't want to be with it will only hurt him more the longer you leave it what would happen if he asked you to marry him he would be devastated when you told him you don't want to be with him tell him now instead of later it will course a lot less pain in the long run.
2006-11-06 15:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make up your mind! You said you know he's not the one, but you don't want to lose him?? You can't have it both ways. Either you want to be with him or you don't?!
There is no way to avoid hurting him. If you stay with him out of guilt, he will end up hurt, and if you break up with him, he will be hurt. Unfortuneltely that is part of life. It is all about damage control! Be careful how you say it, be respectful, and tell him you want to move on.
2006-11-06 15:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know he's not the one for you, you should let him go now. It'll hurt both of you but will be better in the long run. Just tell him the truth and that you want to be friends. He might understand. He will be hurt but you gotta do it.
2006-11-06 15:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by tammi_alley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a we bit more time while you try to find the "one" and when you do cut him loose and let him fall like a 10ton sack of bricks, If you don't find the one then well keep him I guess.
2006-11-06 15:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by RWAR. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that you should dump him because simple as if you think you are hurting him now what will happen when you do find the 'one' he will be even more hurt as you have been together longer basically let him go now and he will take it easier than in the future
2006-11-06 15:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by scott C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know hes not the one you should break up with him. i was engaged to be married in dec. and he told me he didnt think i was the one then i was and we ended breaking up and it just about killed me. 2 years is a long time. no matter what you do its gonna hurt him after that long.
2006-11-06 15:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by KAIHLA R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well don;t give up on him well tell him he is not the one but say i'm not breaking up with you, he well then try to be your one, over time things might be different and he mat bo the one later in time and you have been together 2 years and its different in every relationship
2006-11-06 15:41:13 · answer #11 · answered by mrl53104 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋