I cannot decide if I have made the right decision. Logically it was, but emotionally it was not. HELP!!
2006-11-06 07:32:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it was logically right then it was right. It's easy to get caught up in emotions and it's hard to ignore emotions when you're heart is broken. Especially if it's you breaking your own heart with regret.
If your rational self found something about him or something with the relationship that caused enough concern or doubt to break it off with him then it must have been something important tp you.
Chances are that if you went back to him everything will be great for a while. But whatever it was that caused you the end of the relationship will eventually re-emerge.
Take some time being single. It'll suck for a while. You'll want to go crawling back to him. It can be lonely. Try to ignore that. Go out and meet new people. After a while it won't hurt. You'll meet other guys. The more guys you meet the more you'll know what you do want in a guy. Eventually, you'll fall in love with some one better. It just takes some time.
As for love conquers all...that's bullshit. Everyone likes to believe that love is this magical thing that will fix everything and that it will triumph over any problem and only once you're in love will your life be great. That's a horrible line of logic that's just going to set you up to get hurt. Love doesn't just show up and conquer. Love grows and needs nurturing. It takes work. Love is not automatic.
2006-11-06 08:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by MTY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. Look I don't know what the problems are, but if they led you to make a decision to break it off they must be serious. Usually, most problems can be worked out if both parties are willing to give in somewhat. Sometimes love will conquer all but a non budging partner (one that is not willing to give in or at least meet half way) is not a very good one. I'd say go with your instinct (gut feeling) and find yourself someone else that won't cause you all this heart ache.
Good Luck !
2006-11-06 07:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by This, That & such 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were the problems you had ones which would probably keep happening due to his personality?If so then try your best to move on. You can still love someone alot and yet realise that in the long run that its better not to be together.
2006-11-06 07:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by herbal ashtray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me you don't want you re emotions to have any say what-so-ever at this time. Avoid him like a plague. Go out meet new people, do something fun, travel , read books, start dating or having "no sex friendships. there's someone out there the right someone for you!
* write your sorrows in the sand and carve youre blessings in stone!*
( you know what i mean, yes deep down you do!)
all the best!
2006-11-06 07:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by Josianne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry about your predicament but you will need to move on as i am guessin he already has done or is thinking about his options. sry to be so brutal but its the truth i thought i would never get over my ex but now i am in big trouble (look at my question on m profile i could do with some more help) hope this has helped you
2006-11-06 07:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by scott C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to have a long talk with him if he will talk to you and tell him how you feel. Talk about the problems that have tore you two apart. Also you two may need a break for a week or two from each other. good luck.
2006-11-06 07:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get back together the same old problems will still be there. You have to weigh up whether you love him enough to put up with the same old, same old.
2006-11-06 07:37:33 · answer #7 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are both truly in love then love can conker all no matter what life throws at you!question is does he feel the same?
2006-11-06 07:37:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleep around like everrybody else!!!
2006-11-06 07:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by alec c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why your boyfriend and you broke up?
Say "I am sorry I want with you." to him. or
Say "I am sorry we broke up I want with you." to him
You will say thank to me?
2006-11-06 07:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋