I was out at the weekend at a club where I caught one of my workmates girlfriends snogging another bloke. As soon as she saw me she looked guilty as fook an after denying anything happened at first, she then turns it on me and says that I will destroy him if I tell him what I saw:mad: she then goes on to swear that it was just a drunken mistake and that it will never happen again.
Thing is he has had a **** 12 months with losing both his parents hitting him hard,and he worships the ground this tart walks on. And am worried if I tell him it will(A) push him over the edge or (b) I say nothing and he finds out I knew and said feck all.
What really pisses me of as well is he was at home looking after her daughter from a previous relationship.
2006-11-06 07:29:26 · 22 answers · asked by Monkeyy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him in the kindest way you can if you are a true friend you will stand by him and help him understand she is a cheat why was he baby sitting while she was out partying anyway?He sounds a nice guy don't let him be deceived by her.
2006-11-06 07:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Carol B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to decide if your information is worth all the trouble. He's a friend from work, are you really close? If either of you left the job would you stay in touch? If you tell him will he believe you? Sometimes if an outsider says stuff he'll believe an insider. And if he's just a work friend and he finds out you knew he'll be mad at you but it won't be so bad because he's not really your friend.
However, if you decide he's a good enough friend to go through all the drama for than I'd tell her to tell him or you will. It give her a chance to do it for you without you getting involved. If she still refuses, than you should break the news to him. Tell him that you are sure what you saw and that she saw you too, but all your doing is encouraging him to ask her, whatever, happens from there is their business. He might get mad at you at first but in the end he'll come to his senses. As far as him having a hard time right now, it will never be a good time. He can get over losing his parents and then be really really happy in a way he's not been in long time and you'll think "i've not seen him this happy in a long time" and you won't want to ruin it. Its best to just get it over with. She did the deed not you.
2006-11-06 07:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by Smithy14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you other than (1) this girl sounds like a H* (2) i feel terrible (3) Would you want to know? if your girlfriend cheated on you, would you want to know? If you workmate cares for this girl, he may or will probably want to know. If you tell him, make sure you tell him gently. If it will push it over the edge you want to be there with him. Let him know you are there for him if he needs ANYTHING!
if this girl cares for your friend then she wouldn't be making out with another guy and he would want to know that. Also she would be with him and her daughter, instead of at a club if she cared. He doesn't deserve her if she does that to him.
I hope i helped you! Are you British?
2006-11-06 07:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetie Pie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah... it's all his fault because you were "deceived'. Go ahead and snitch him out, all that will happen is he'll hate you and patch crap up as best he can with his wife and fool around with someone else. It always cracks me up when women feel so used and taken advantage of... even though, by your own admission, he was only 'seperated'. If it'll make you feel better about yourself, go ahead and call her. That way some innocent woman who didn't do anything will be the real one hurt. You should be real proud of yourself...
2016-05-22 04:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has sort of become your problem now, so you hav to sort it out. Speak to his gf, let her know that her bf really needs to be told. "Relationships are all about trust and a relationship based on a lie would never work out." Obviously the best solution would be if she agrees to tell him herself. If she refuses, it almost certainly means that she doesn't really love him and would probably cheat again.... in that case- tell your workmate what you saw.
2006-11-06 07:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by leon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of these answers are wonderful! I agree with those who told you to say nothing at all. He will learn soon enough. And later on when the waters have calmed, he will ask you if you knew. You can decide what to say then. If he is a good friend, then keep him as a good friend and mind your own business!
Tell him & you loose him forever...
2006-11-06 07:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For starters, maybe you should have a word with her first, you know, make her sweat with the "I really ought to tell him," kinda thing and get her to explain herself.
Oh, f*ck it. Shop the b*tch. She's having her cake and eating it. AND giving single mothers a bad name. She's Take a Break/Trisha fodder.
Chances are he won't believe you (especially if you've ever voiced a negative opinion previously) but maybe it'll wake him up to the fact that someone's possibly walking all over him. Also, suggest that he doesn't babysit for her anymore...
2006-11-06 07:34:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say this but its better he finds out what a user his gf is now! its better then say another 12 months down the line? whos going to feel guilty then!! at least if you tell him you can say you tried to warn him! at the end of the day he will only make his own mind up anyway and go his own way!
2006-11-06 07:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him, because if he finds out you didn't tell him he'll just think that the whole worlds against him or something. And he should get a better girlfriend- obviously they aren't meant for each other anyway
2006-11-06 07:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him, if he ever finds out that you knew and didn't tell him, then he will be really mad at you, He'll get over her. Help him through it. You have to let him know
2006-11-06 07:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋