im due in one week and he is over in iraq and wont be home for the arival im only 24 im married hes 26 wat should i do i so confused and tiered ancant talk to him or write and the doctors think twins but we havent a clue hlep me please i need the answers
2006-11-06 07:28:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
What a load of BULL!
Seriously you are due in 1 week and you don't know if there is one baby or two in there, yeh right!
2006-11-06 12:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Natalie D 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As stupid as this might sound pray and really think, if you give the child up and some thing happens to him you would be all alone but that would be you only link to each other. Im not going to lie Im 24 and im married and have a 6 month old and she is a handfull a great baby but a handfull. But I would not give anything for her. I cried the first time she said ma ma, yet she sit there and pulls my hair and throws up on me and yells in my ear and gives me the biggest head ach ever but at the end of the day I get that smile and that big wet kiss and a ma ma ma ma and its all worth it and she goes to sleep. Point being its hard and has great times and bad but just take your time if you think adoption is the right move thats fine but it does not have to be the day you have them. Try and be a mother and see if you can do it and it might surprize you how easy it comes to you. If not there always is adoption, and no one will feel ill. And keep trying to get up with your husband tell the people its emergency reasons.
2006-11-06 16:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by ejt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does him being in Iraq have to do with it? I mean, why would that factor make you consider giving the kid(s) up for adoption?
Did this just come up over the last couple weeks or have you two been considering it all along?
Do you two want kids? Do YOU want a kid? If so, then keep the baby (or twins eek!) and your husband will help you support it financially even though he's away.
Don't make a rash decision out of depression and general frustration just because he's gone... you have to feel confident you're doing the right thing.
Also, if you do decide on adoption, remember you'll need him to be in on it legally -- he'd have to sign away his parental rights just like you'd have to. It's not just up to you.
If you do decide on adoption, consider "open adoption" which allows you to keep a certain degree of contact so you know the kid is doing OK, and so you can relay medical information, etc.
Good luck.
2006-11-06 15:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by pixelscapes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just lonely and depressed and scared, so you're talking foolish right now. I'm sure deep down you know you want this baby or babies.
My husband is never arround much either. From Kosovo to Jamacia to finally taking the plunge of working for a contracting company in Iraq for two years. I handled it all while ensuring 3 girls were well taken care of. Having a spouse in a war zone is very tramatic and stressful, I know. Especially with children in the mix. But trust me this child is a blessing in disguise. You will have so much love for this baby that it will help you block out the worry that you have for your husband. You will have a part of your husband with you 24/7. You will see how beautiful this baby will be!
If I were you I would join a military spouse support group. Check the base where your husband was stationed at in the U.S. They will offer so much to you, such as friendship, advice and even a babysitter! You will meet friends for life. Military wives stick together like glue. You will see that everything will work out for the best.
Good Luck to you and I pray that you have a healthy beautiful child and I pray that your husband returns safely to meet that miracle baby! God Bless you!
2006-11-06 16:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by vykky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i dont understand is why cant you talk to your husband??? Mine was over in Iraq(in Tikrit to be exact) for about a year and I had solid communication with him even if it was just me writing to him. When he first got there there wasnt many phone lines or computers but by the time he left there were call centers and internet centers set up.
Is the baby your husbands???? Does he even know you are pregnant???? Is there a family support group for the spouses(we had one) that can tell you how to get a message to your husband like thru red cross or whatnot.
I would say do NOT give up the baby esp if your hubby is unaware. You need to find someone that you can talk to about this like a military support group or whatnot.
2006-11-06 15:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by pyxiegyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't possibly be serious. This is the stupidest thing I've ever heard.
Apparently, since you're using the Internet, you aren't in like a third world country or anything. They could use a freaking stethoscope to figure out if you were having twins or not. And the smart thing for you to do would have been to talk to the father sometime in the last 9mo to let him know. They do allow soldiers to write/receive letters.
If this is indeed true, give the kid(s) up because your are clearly an idiot.
2006-11-06 15:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's because it might be twins, it would be unfortunate. My mother is a twin, and she wasn't given up for adoption, but her grandmother took her in and raised my mom like her own. My mom and all of her sisters are close, but there is still a very small rift between them because of her living situation, and my aunts sometimes poke at her about it. But you know, that is one story out of thousands. I just felt like sharing that with you.
Perhaps you should talk to your husband when he comes home. You should be able to find your child/children a good home if you feel the need to have them adopted. Your hospital may be able to help.
You're a strong person. I wish all the best for you dear, and all the best for your husband.
2006-11-06 15:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by *Chinisu* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even consider giving the baby(ies) up for adoption. Just because your husband can't be there? That's ridiculous. It will be challenging, but try to have friends and family help you out. Just because your husband is in Iraq, that's no excuse to consider adoption, especially if he hasn't been able to talk to you about this. Chill out and keep the baby(ies). You can handle it!
2006-11-06 15:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have gotten this far. Look to your friends and family support. If you feel that with their love and support you can make it until your husband gets home then give it a try. If not then adoption is a choice.
Just keep in mind that your hormones will mess with your head. Discuss this with your support system. They will help you make the best decision for you and your baby.
Bast of Luck!
2006-11-06 15:34:35 · answer #9 · answered by buggerhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, with God's will, your husband will come home. Do the best you can. Plenty of women raise kids without a father EVER being present and plenty of military wives give birth while their husbands are overseas and somehow manage.. Call on friends and family for help. You can do it. Also, have you talked to your husband about this. You cant give a kid up for adoption without his consent. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-06 15:37:38 · answer #10 · answered by parrothead2371 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real???
You are considering giving up your babies because your husband is in Iraq? You can't talk to or write him? So, you haven't talked to him at all since you found out you were pregnant?
Also, you're due in one week and your doctor doesn't know if you're having twins or not???
2006-11-06 16:32:45 · answer #11 · answered by Julie F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋