My wedding is less than three weeks away....?

Question

and I'm really not that stressed. Not that I'm complaining, but everyone has been telling me that brides always get really stressed this close to the wedding. I am getting really excited and just slightly nervous, but not stressed out.
I've contacted the florist and the flowers are good. Paid for and all arrangements made.
The gal baking my cake knows the plan and has already started making the decorations. (They are non-edible picks that go all over the cake.) Also paid for.
The pastor has everything on his schedule.
My dress is already fitted and pressed, waiting to be put on.
My fiance's tux arrangements are set. We go on the twentieth for final fitting and pick up. (The weddings on the 25th.)
The decorations are all set, just have to put them up the day before. The reception is cake and punch and the church women's group is taking care of that.
The rings are with my mom.
The bridesmaids and groomsmen have their clothing set.
The invitations were sent out.

Am I forgetting something? It seems weird that there's nothing left to do.

The favors are being made. (I hate tedious work so I'm taking my time.)

I've known other brides who are panicking at this point.

Am I doing something wrong?

I've tried not to be a bridezilla about this. I've actually been pretty laid back. I let the bridal party pick their own clothes. The girls picked out their own dress in a particular color and the guys are wearing suits they already owned instead of renting tuxes.

Hair and nail appts are set.

Anyone else see something I missed?

PS - not having a bachlorette party. My matron of honor is in law school and I'm a teacher. We're just to tired to worry about it. I already had my bridal shower. And even sent out the thank you notes for that.

Oh yeah - we can't afford a formal photographer so we are having a family friend who dabbles in photography snap some good candid shot and going a few weeks later to have some nice portraits shot at a studio.

Bridesmaid, groomsmen gifts set.
Marriage license being picked up on the 20th as well. (You only have ten days after initial issuance to get the pastor to sign it in the state of OK)
Rehearsal dinner is a no go. Small bridal party and no one wanted to deal with it. Plus we are on a really tight budget.
The only traveling family is the future sister-in-law and she is staying with the future mother-in-law.

Answer 1

i wasn't nervous either...some ppl just aren't. no big deal. i HATE that ppl think we are suppose to "act" a certian way.
personally i think some ppl that act that way just do it because they think they have to for some reason.
i was cool as a cucumber...even when my dad was half an hour late because of a tire blowing out LOL...never sweat the small stuff...i had my guests there, my groom there...no body was going anywhere..we just waited. HA!

BUT...i didn't see anything about a photographer...or the grooms gift.

ya know...i think some ppl don't bother w/ a grooms gift, but thought i'd mention it. my hubby and i didn't mess w/a gift we just sent a card to each other before so we could read something sweet from one another.

and ya got the old fashion stuff...something old, something new, something barrowed, something blue?

Answer 2

Sit down, have a coffee or whatever helps relax you and just imagine that in three weeks time it will all be over. No more stress, over wedding at least, and you'll be a happily married woman. Can tell how excited you are and that is great. Even if everything doesn't go 100% as planned it is your day and enjoy it. You'll laugh soon enough about how stressed out this is making you. Good luck.

Answer 3

I'm not sure what your question is, but I'm assuming you're wondering about your lack of "butterflies" over your upcoming wedding. If you're normally a calm, collected, non-emotional person, then I wouldn't worry about not worrying (ha ha). But if you normally are, then maybe your lack of excitement is due to the fact that you haven't totally bought into the idea of marriage. If that is the case, you might lose a deposit on cake and flowers, but that is a small price to pay compared to a lifetime committment. Do some soul searching: If you are in love and want to spend the rest of your life with this guy, stop worrying and enjoy one of the greatest moments in your life. If you are simply going through the motions because it is the right thing to do...take a deep breath and end this thing now.

Answer 4

I didn't get stressed out either....until the day of. Just a little advice...no matter what happens on your wedding day, nothing is as important as enjoying the experience. I wasn't a bridezilla at all, UNITL at the reception the chocolate fountain started clumping and the attendant was nowhere to be found and I freaked!! I wish I had been as level headed as I had been all the months leading up to that awesome day! :)

Answer 5

Sounds like you have everything in order, I've got 2 weeks till mine and i feel the same, I'm not that stressed but very excited. I still am paying for things so don't worry everything has a way of working out. One of my bridesmaids still hasn't had her dress altered. But I'm not stressed. You will be so beautiful on your day and no one will be worrying about how things turned out just that you and your hubby are married and are happy. good luck babe and congrats, have a wonderful life together. :-D

Answer 6

BREATHE!!!! I got married just a month ago. There will be something that doesn't go right, it's OK! I was 40 min late and we forgot the best man. you're gonna do fine. My advise, the day of, eat before you get to the ceremony. i promise you'll feel better by the time dinner hits, if you get a chance to eat. go thru your list of thing you personally need to do, and all the rest, give to you bridesmaids, that's what their there for... to help you! it's gonna be a hectic week, but make sure you tell the groom you love him, he's just as stressed as you, even if it doesn't show!

Answer 7

The only thing left for you to have is your bachelorette party. Then sit back and relax. Remember DO NOT get drunk you really do want to remember your day. Make sure you do the meet and greet with all of your guests. You will be fine and it will go without a problem. Have fun. Good luck to you and your fiance and I wish you the best in the future.

Michelle

Answer 8

I was the same way. I suggest getting all of the things around the house into one central location, so nothing will be forgotten. There's always something. But for the most part, I was in your position. I had everything done, and kept coming up with more things to do, spending our honeymoon money. Fortunatelly the honeymoon was all inclusive and it didnt make much of a difference.

Answer 9

No, sounds like you've got it all under control. I think, most of the stress seems to come from wanting everything to be "perfect", but it sounds like you realize that there's no such thing as "perfect", there's only such thing as "something you really like".

My wedding was totally informal, but I was very stressed nevertheless - mostly because my in-laws disapproved of the very "informality" of the wedding, and I was worried that they wouldn't like it! It turned out great, tho, with a lot of help from my friends - but I couldn't have known ahead of time, and was very worried that I wouldn't be pleasing some very important people! So I think it all depends on the mindset, not as much on the actual arrangements themselves.

Answer 10

Sounds like you have your head on straight. Those bridezillas on TV are just examples of control freaks. I say once those weddings are over they will probably be hard to live with. I was like you and everything went fine. Don't let others tell you how you should feel. Everyone is different. So relax...enjoy your wedding and reception and look forward to being the MRS!!!