would you be offended if your significate other sent you information...
you see my mom adopted my younger sister who was molested and she gets tested and i'ts important to me, i sent my boyfriend an article on how 6 out of 10 heterosexuals have not been tested and why.
would he get offended? We did touch base on how i feel about it
2006-11-06 07:15:44 · 9 answers · asked by Juleette 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i didn't send it because i think he's up to no good, but i don't think he realized how bad it is these days
2006-11-06 07:16:47 · update #1
Your sexual health is a very important thing. And if sharing information with the one you are with is your way of keeping healthy then good on ya.
General guys are scared that its going to hurt. Tell him you are willing to go and get tested with him, make it a couples activity. He should appreciate that you are concerned for his safety as well as mature enough to consider you own.
Once again good for you for bringing this up, its a really really important issue.
2006-11-06 07:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't be offended but perhaps it would help to explicitly -tell- him you're not asking him to be tested because you fear he's been fooling around. I've never been in that situation before but I sort of suspect that if a SO asked me to be tested for AIDS, I might be at least a -little- worried that he or she was doing so out of concern that I might have been "messing around" or less than honest about my past history ...
Regardless, I think it seems like a reasonable thing to ask - not to mention highly responsible. Better safe than sorry, right?
2006-11-06 15:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by Stacyj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not just send it because he will probably jump to the wrong conclusion about why you are sending it. Tell him about it and ask if he's ever been tested. If he hasn't tell him that its important to you that he does and why you feel that way and if he likes you can go with him and get tested to. This way you'll both know everything is ship shape, no worries. But never just send something with no explaination.
2006-11-06 15:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by Smithy14 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a good thing to be tested for all STI's.
However, he may have been offended because he though you though he was up to trouble or cheating on you. Make it clear to him that's not what you were thinking. Make it clear that you think it's important for him to get checked.
2006-11-06 15:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by Becky 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't send him info, I would maybe sit down and show him the info and stress how important it is to you. If he does love and respect you, he will get tested. Besides, the test is easy and then you will have peace of mind.
2006-11-06 15:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by noambition 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He should understand. Especially if you've discussed this matter before. If he doesn't understand how bad it is these days then you should let him know. And inform him of the benefits of being tested for Aids.
2006-11-06 15:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
one day somebody said to me that when she got with a new boyfriend they would both go for all sorts of tests first before they slept together and i think its a really good idea just talk to him
2006-11-06 15:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why did you just send him something?
Why didn't you talk to him about it in person?
If you send it to him seems accusatory and impersonal.
2006-11-06 15:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by MisterO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should have an honest discuss of your previous sexual activities, and then get tested together... not just for HIV/AIDS, but for all STDs....
2006-11-06 15:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by Heath 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋