i am having real trouble with trying toget my daughter to give up the dummy.she dosent have it during the day it is really when going to bed at night. she is 3 yrs old will be 4 in feb,i was just wondering if anybody has any tips on trying to get her out of this habbit.
2006-11-06 07:10:37 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
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2006-11-06 07:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a tricky one, cos hearing your story I'm inclined to say just let her keep it until she no longer needs it, because it's only at night time, so no one sees her with it during the day, and it won't be affecting her speech etc. However, if it was my son, who's 4 in December, I'd be climbing the walls trying to find a way to get him to ditch it! I've heard that popping them in a box and "sending" them to the "fairies" is a good one, because the fairies need them for all the newborn babies....but it depends whether how altruistic she is I guess! I had my dummy until I was nearly 6, yes 6...and there was nothing or no one that could convince me to get rid! I eventually through it out of the car when we were on the motorway, because my dad said he'd give up smoking if I gave up my dummy...he still smokes, but I guess I'm glad I no longer have the dummy!
With my eldest, he was 15 months when his went, and he through it in for the ducks (by accident) and then refused any other dummy I gave him...I must've bought hundreds trying to entice him, but he just screamed! It was hard for 3 night's, and then it was almost as if he never had it! My youngest son is now 17 month's, and I'm not really interested in taking his away yet, because he's so clingy with it, and I just feel he's not ready yet!
Good luck whatever you decide.
2006-11-06 15:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try one of the pass it on to someone more needy tactics above. But remember, once she has gone one night without it, she may protest more the following night when she realises that this is it from now on. You have got to be firm once you decide to take it away and dont give in or else you will be setting urself up for a whole lot of trouble at bedtime
2006-11-06 17:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by anni333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 3 and just gave his up recently.We had a talk about how he was getting to big for it and he still didn' want to give it up. Finally when he wasn't around i put them all up. I told him he could haven't a pacifier only babies took pacifiers. At first he tried taking my younger sons but I told him no after a few day of "withdraw" he was over it. For some reason my 1 year old gave his up to. I guess he figured he wasn't a bbaby either lol. Just try to reason with her.
I met a lady at the dr's office who told her daughter that her teeth would grow funny aif she didn't stop taking it and she said she threw hers away herself. Good Luck!!
2006-11-06 15:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of 4 Sweethearts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little brother was still sucking a dummy at the age of four, how we got him off them was by getting him to put his on our Christmas tree for "santa" to take them when he leaves his pressies.
Santa actually left him a special pressie for his dummies and my little bro hasn't looked back since.
We did tell him that he was getting to big for a dummy numerous times but the thing Santa really did work :)
2006-11-06 15:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A star chart might work? When I was having trouble getting my son into his own bed at night I created a star chart. A star for going to bed and a star for staying there. If he filled the chart for the week I would treat him. It took me a week. Maybe try the same sort of system?
2006-11-07 08:55:25 · answer #6 · answered by Marti H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it isn't her, but you. You need to get rid of her dummy. You give it to her when she's upset, you give it to her when you would like her to sleep or stop crying or whatever. It is you who needs to get over it (sorry, but that needs to be your frame of mind if you are going to succeed). best way is to throw it out... and NOT BUY A NEW ONE! Tell her she's used it so much that it has gone "off" and replace it at bed-time with a glass of warm-milk (no need to bribe with sweets!) She'll cry for it a lot the first night, and less the following. within at most a week, if you've stuck to it firmly, she'll be over it.
2006-11-06 15:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by Pat D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try starting by asking the child to wait 15 minutes before using the pacifier and then 20 minutes a few days later, and then increase the time until she gives it up.
Or offer her small rewards (like the kind of thing kids get when they go to birthday parties) for each night she goes without it.
I think the idea of the fourth poster (giving them to the "babies") was a great one!!
Good luck, all will pass in time, very few kids go to first grade still sucking on pacifiers!
2006-11-06 15:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by Erika S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to stay positive abou the whole think and not make it a dramatic event. She should be getting ready real soon. Try to give it to a family member with a younger child and explain to them what is going on before it happens.
2006-11-06 15:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by mommy of two 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend said that when Santa came with the presents he would have to taked all the dummies away. This worked a treat because you can blame someone else.
2006-11-06 15:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Ally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain her she need to give it to Santa, or to the fairy at night, and when she wake up in the morning, she will have a present instead. Good luck.
and after you throw it in the bin, make sure that you do not give her an another one, even if she cry for it.
2006-11-08 14:47:29 · answer #11 · answered by boulonpitou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋