I finished with my boyfriend of 2 years at the end of the summer and he still wont leave me alone. He has even come into my work and proposed to me knowing that the answer wouldnt be the one he wanted. I have been nice with him all this time as I didnt feel like we needed to fall out, although he didn't treat me well but now he's getting very nasty and abusive verbally that I'm at the end of my tether and don't know what more I can do to get him to leave me alone.
Can anyone suggest anything?
Many thanks for your time!
2006-11-06 07:00:44 · 12 answers · asked by blushing_bird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would tell your boss that you wish not to speak with him and when he comes in you would like him asked to leave. If he continues to get nasty with you, tell him you're looking into a restraining order against him. Normally, he'll back down, he seems to be taking his frustration of your failed relationship out on you. Don't answer his phone calls, and if need be, GET a restraining order. Document any phone calls/emails/text msgs that are nasty and abusive, document when he comes to your work, the type of harassment he's inducing on you. That way when you need the help of the police (hopefully you won't but if you do) you have a strong solid case against him. Good luck!
2006-11-06 07:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by INS24106 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him straight one last time, firmly and convincingly that ye are finished, you need to be cruel to be kind and obviously being kind isnt working. Don't say things like "if things were different" or "I still love you" because Iv said that many times to an ex so that he wouldn't feel too bad and i ended up having to get my boyfriend to set him straight because I was afraid of what he would do. That didn't work so my parents contacted the police and he finally got the message. Tell him that if he really loved you and wanted you to be happy then he would leave you alone. If after telling him directly that you are not interested and he is still bothering you then you need to contact the police and get a restraining order. His behaviour is totally unacceptable and it must be scary for you. I wish you the best of luck and hopes it all works out well for you.
2006-11-06 15:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by miami180985 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is Harassment. (if you are in the UK)
If he's getting nasty then you need some extra help or support to sort this out.
Go to the police and report him. They will have a quiet word and that should be enough to put him off.
If not then report him again and then they issue him with a Harassment warning. If he keeps doing it he'll end up in court and they'll issue a restraining order.
If you havent lived with him or havent been engaged before you wont be able to get an injunction.(Like a restraining order) If you did, then go to a solicitor and they will be able to advise you on injunctions with power of arrest.
To go to the police you you will need evidence of at least two occasions harassment, so keep any times, dates, letters, so on.
Good luck!
x
2006-11-06 15:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by Ah! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he's obsessed with you,and if he did not treat you well in the 1st place you should have let go of the whole "relationship"then not after 2yrs,just in a thought that he mite change. they never do. Men will be men no matter how nice you treat them. ask him politely to leave you alone and that you have moved on and even then if he insists,you best be careful of him and ask what he wants of you. coz when you were with him:there was no happiness so how does he expect for things to work out now. I think you were never in love with him you were infactuated by him and felt pity for him and chose to cling on to the relationship despite the fact that there was no connection, better make a stand in your life now before he does something to jeopardize your life girl.
2006-11-06 15:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by milli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now it might be time to take the nasty approach yourself instead of sparing him anymore heartache. the fact that he was a complete waster and didn't know how to treat you remains there. It's difficult to cut the contact and you may have felt sorry for him without knowing it.
He hasn't moved on and unless he gets the hint and leaves you alone I don't think you have any option other than to go to the police.
2006-11-06 15:06:12 · answer #5 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report him to the police. This sounds like stalking & is illegal. Once you have reported it to the police, keep a log of everything that happens with a note of names of witnesses.
Pass them to the police & they will warn him off. If he persists then get an injuction against him approacing you & if he violates it he can be arrested.
2006-11-06 15:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes getting nasty, say youll think about it if he leaves you alone and is not nasty and if he doesnt do anything. if he really likes you he will, if he doesnt tell him hes being an idiot and tell him to wake up and see its over. Harsh but fair, well he didnt treat you well. be firm, since you were nice to him it may be giving him false hope. this sounds like obsession to me, if you tell him youll think about it hell probably forget you.
chin up, dont get stressed
2006-11-06 15:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
spell it out fror him that you want nothing to do with him if he ignores this the get a restraining order out on him
2006-11-06 15:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by SHAUNA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get one of your male friends to kick the **** out of him.
2006-11-06 15:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
restraining order
2006-11-06 15:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋