Any advice on this monster called the middle child syndrom??My son has now started to show lots of jealousy(new) towards his other brothers. I have always spent lots of quality time with just him and I.What to do?
2006-11-06 06:55:58 · 9 answers · asked by Susan and Grant O 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
COMMUNICATION is key. Talk to him. Ask him what he needs from you. Ask him what is wrong. but also tell him you love him!
2006-11-06 07:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he really is jealous......but of what. Is it because older brother has friends coming over, get to stay up later.....He feels big brother is getting thing that he isn't or doing things he can't. And I'll bet that's the case. But he IS a younger child. Have clear rules and boundaries set for each child based on maturity and age. Let them each know what they are. Older child get more privileges but along with that goes more responsibilities( chores, grades, etc) Basing a bedtime only on age is something abstract and hard for kids to understand. But with everything in life....that is just the way it is and most important that is the way YOU want it done, period. Doing this also lets you use the limits set for the older child as a reward for the next in line. AND use the limits for the next youngest as a discipline tool for the middle and older.
2006-11-06 07:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by koko 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a middle child too.My children are 16 year old girl and a 9 year old girl and a son that will be year old in a few days.
My 9 year old was the baby for so lpng that it was very hard on her at first but she is crazy about her brother now.We made sure to spend time with her by herself so she did not feel left out.
2006-11-06 07:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a middle child amongst 3 girls while growing up. I never did feel like I was the forgotten one of all 3, just the most different. To give you an example, consider this: I am a light sleeper, both of my sisters are deep sleepers, I can handle spicy food better than they can, I'm the most pessimistic of all 3, & like the unusual/odd-ball gifts the most as a kid.
2006-11-06 09:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly Pierce 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i just so happen to be a middle child and the wa i feel is ok because i can boss my little sister but my big brother bosses me. Maybe he feels like you pay attention to the babie and the older kid of the family to much. And i'm usre you probally aren't he just trying really hard to make it seem that way. Hope i helped a little
2006-11-06 07:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'm not much help here. My middle child seems to be the most well-adjusted of my three.
Try to spend one-on-one time with him doing things of his choice. Spend a few minutes each day connecting with him. Wake up or bedtime usually works well. I like talking about their day for a few mins before bed or talking about what will happen the next day.
2006-11-06 07:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably trying to get used to the fact that everyone has to be treated equally and 1 not just getting the most attention. I have a middle child that fights so much with her older brother and younger sister. She JUST started fighting with younger sister but has been fighting with older brother. As my mom says, Kids will be kids.
2006-11-06 07:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by GorgeousGal10 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i only have two children but i am a middle child.....my mother once told me to my face that she loved my older sister more cause she was her first....she loved my younger sister more cause she was her last....and i was just thrown in there...... i would say just talk to him and make sure he knows he is loved....i never felt i was loved until i was 30 and met my current husband...i know my dad loved me but he left when i was 10 and hasn't been around much since.....just don't ever let him feel that he is loved any less than the other two!!!!! I always said that i would never have three kids cause i didn't ever want to have a "middle child".....it is just plain awful!!!!!!!
2006-11-06 07:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he?
That's a big variable....some kids are just 'monsters' no matter where in the dynamic they are....might be an age thing more than a sibling position thing...
Show him (and ALL of them) personalised attention... kids want attention and either get it by being bad or by being good.
If you show him positive attention, you undermine the need for him to 'get noticed' by acting out...
2006-11-06 06:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋