My 4 year old girl is being bullied at school on a daily bases by this one particular girl. At first I thought kids will be kids but she goes out of her way to bother her from the moment she sets her foot in the class.
I've told my daughter to be kinder to her to speaking to her teacher. Apparently the teacher did have a talk or two with this kid privately but this girl is relentless. It's affecting my daughter emotionally. She's asking about the mean comments,that was made to her in the class, and it's affecting her.
I'm thinking about speaking to this kid's mother. Is this wrong?
If you were in my shoes, what would you do?
2006-11-06 06:47:20 · 9 answers · asked by ixbibi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I think at this point, talking to her parents is a good idea.
But I recommend going about it in a non-accusatory way. Invite them over and serve refreshments. Approach the issue as a mutual problem that can be solved if all the pieces of the puzzle are discovered. After all, it's in this girl's best interest to learn to be a better person, or she won't be liked as she grows up. Betcha other kids in the class don't like her because they see her bullying. Present yourself as the parents' ally and not adversary.
I've heard some reasons kids bully is feeling a lack off control over their lives, like if they are overscheduled with activities or have a new sibling or some such chaos at home. The daughter of some friends of mine did some stealing from other kids after her mother remarried. A simple talk took care of the problem - she just wanted some attention.
Good luck to you. Hope you can make some new friends out of this.
2006-11-06 06:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you,I wouldn't talk to the parents of the child just yet.I had the same problem with one of my children,and thought it was o.k if I talked to the parents about it.Big mistake.The child became worse at school,and the parents of the child,would glare at me when I dropped my child off and picked her up.I swear if looks could kill.I would be a dead person.Talk to the teacher about it,and if you feel that it won't work,go and speak to the person in charge of the school.I hope that every thing works out for you,and that your daughter is feeling better about school and herself real soon.
2006-11-06 11:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents will only take offence and become protective over their daughter. Your daughter must be doing something, they will infur. It is best to go to the principal, a third party, to get this handled. He can put her in a different class and restrict her movements on the playground and lunchroom. Lawyers also command attention. If your requests to the principal go unanswered contact one and have him deal with the school. If it continues your daughter Will become submissive and the target of every bully in the years to come. When it happened to my son, I also counseled him at home as to why this boy would pick on him or anyone. Such as, he felt insignificant at home and he felt powerful picking on someone else. In reality he was hurting inside and to hide the hurt, he had to hurt someone else. My son gained understanding, no longer took it as his fault, and was, like you are telling your daughter, to still be kind. I don't know what went on in that boy's home but he is now in his early 20's, with DUI's already on his record, sadly.
2006-11-06 07:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by koko 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would already be in the Principals office, demanding the teacher and the parents come in immediately. If she is such a bully at age 4, good God, how will she be in High School???
2006-11-06 06:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by GP 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the teacher first and ask for resolution. If that did not work, then requesting a parents-teacher conference with (that kid and her parents, you, your other haft and your daughter)
2006-11-06 06:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by TheOne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would absolutely want a mediator there for a direct discussion. I would suggest the teacher call both parents in for a conference.
2006-11-06 07:10:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No that's not wrong! But keep in mind that this is her daughter and she may think the problem is yours! If the mother doesn't do anything, I would pull the other child to the side and tell to leave your child alone!! Been ther Done that, AND IT WORKED!!!!
2006-11-06 06:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by panda 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would talk to the kids parents and try to get them to under stand what is going on.
2006-11-06 07:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by Kathleen V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO its perfectly all right to talk to her parents. You need to inform the parents so that they can discipline their child before someone else has to.
2006-11-06 06:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by cowboy_cat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋