My boyfriend and i have been together for over nine months and all but he's never said i love you at all could this mean that he doesn't love me?
2006-11-06 06:41:21 · 14 answers · asked by Sad 'n' Sorry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he doesn't mind taking you around his friends
When he holds you in his arms it feels like you two are the only one in the world.
If when he says he is going to call you at a certain time he actually does (because he is thinking about you)
If he asks you for advice ( he must trust)
You can tell when he looks you in the eye
If he always wants to spend time with you instead of his friends
He wants you to meet the family
He is always there for you at the drop of a dime
2006-11-06 06:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by just_sexy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough thing to wonder about, but I will say this...my ex b/f told me he loved me after I broke up w/him for cheating. He always treated me cold before I found out about the other girl. Then when I gave him another chance, he was so grateful, he told me he "loved" me and "just didn't realize it." Then, the relationship really went south because I found out he was still after the other girl a month later. So, the point is, the word is meaningless. Like some of the other answers, go by the actions for evidence of how your man feels about you. When the time is right, the word will come into the mix and it will feel more genuine. With the guy I'm seeing now, I know I want to blurt it out to him and I wonder if he does too. I'm just waiting for the time to be right. Take care!
2006-11-06 07:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by johannacass@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
words are just words. Actions are much better. Does he randomly bring home small gifts or talk about things (a dress in a window, a rock on the ground, whatever) that occured through the day that reminded him of you? Do you catch him looking at you at random moments or sitting close to you, some sort of contact? Does he quietly go off to do things because you want them (like you'll mention the trash needs to be taken out and he does it, or that your head hurts and get gets you aspirin) whatever?
Some people just aren't good with words, or don't even know thier true feelings. It's truly the small subtle signs that shows you that he cares.
2006-11-06 06:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by smm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat, Been with my boyfriend for ages and still no i love you...
But I do have some advice to offer, My ex boyfriend and I were together for 10 months before I finally got tired of waiting for him to tell me that he loved me, so i just blurted it out to him one night when we were away on this camp thing... He never said anything back that night and i was really hurt, we were staying in separate cabins and stuff cos the camp had organised it out that way, and there was no cell phone coverage so i couldn't let him know that i was upset at the idea that he didn't reply.. Turns out that he didn't hear what I said so He didn't actually know that I had told him I loved him...
My point being that, sometimes males need to know that they are loved before they can love you...
My Current boyfriend keeps asking me "do you feel loved" and its really strange cos he hasn't outright said that he loves me and I'm in your shoes, I'm waiting for him to feel it and say it.
There are two options, you can sit it out and wait for him to pick his balls off the floor and let you know how he really feels, or you can be the bigger man and tell him that you love him and see what you get out of him then...
2006-11-06 06:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by preped_up_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy that he's not just throwing those three words around. Maybe he's waiting for the right time and he wants to be sure he means it when he says it. It has only been nine months...give him time.
2006-11-06 06:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it doenst it could mean that his afraid to tell u ...he might feel that u dont feel the same way..or that he cares about u soo much that he doesnt want to rush things he wants to take things slow to make sure it last just as long as it does know if not longer y dont u ask him honesty is always the key to a strong and lasting relationship
GOD Bless!
2006-11-06 06:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he'll say he loves you when he's ready to...don't worry I'm sure he has very strong feelings for you but saying 'i love you' to someone is a big step to take. Don't worry and just enjoy being with this guy...he's probably worried that you'll freak out when he says it...
2006-11-06 06:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by Elle :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't love you yet which is okay it's only been 9 months, or he waiting for the right time to say it
2006-11-06 06:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by 1 luvly LEO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just hasn't found the right time, look back and think really hard, you should be able to tell deep down in your heart if he really loves you or not!
2006-11-06 06:52:05 · answer #9 · answered by --Br0oklYn-- 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow!! umm so your with this guy who wont say I Love You!!.. hmm I say hes just scared to show his feelings. Tell him that you need him to say it!! If he says why, then tell him Why not!! If he doesnt want to say it, and he wants to be childish, then maybe you shouldnt be with a kid like that!!
2006-11-06 06:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by c t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋