It usually happens that my family doesn't tell me something really important until I hear about it 2nd or even 3rd hand. For example, my father didn't tell me the combination to the safe for several years, nor did he bother to let me know the combo to the alarm system for equally as long.
Even today, at 30, my parents aren't always upfront with me and often keep things from me.
Why?
Paul
2006-11-06 06:40:05 · 15 answers · asked by dunric 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have people like you in my family. I know things I know cause I ask. Maybe they don't want you to know.
2006-11-06 06:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you don't have a family that can spread something to everyone within 5 minutes. Good thig I am the only one who doesn't live in their city or State, although I am going home in 2 days so I get to experience it all over again.
So Paul, what's the big deal? Do you really NEED to know what the combo to the safe is? I'm sure if something happened one of your family memebers would know. Don't take it so personal.
Your family is your family. You will never change the way they are. You will only beat yourself up in the trying to figure it out. Enjoy the now!!
2006-11-06 14:48:06 · answer #2 · answered by twest_dgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Paul, I sence they don't trust you for some reason. Have you given them any reason to believe you aren't trustworthy?
Are you the black sheep? I am, I'm always last to know anything, but then again, it's my fault, because I'm the one who went far away from my family and stayed away.
Anyways, You had to have done something, and maybe right now, it's NOT clicking in your head about what it was.
Are you an over reactor? If so, may be your family don't want to deal with this action.
If this really bothers you, try sitting your parents down and have a nice talk. Let them know how you feel, and ask why they are doing, what their doing.
2006-11-06 14:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paul, Unfortunatly no one else can answer this except your parents. See, the thing is that I don't know what kind of kid you were...were you trustworthy? Or did you tend to squeal? Are you the youngest? How many siblings do you have?
There's more to this than just "why". I mean, "why not"? My parents hid things from me because I was never good at secrets, I am the youngest of 2 brothers and they wanted me to be sheltered the most because I was their only girl...Find out what the reason was for you!
2006-11-06 14:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be as simple as they don't think you care. If you want to know something just ask. Parents are busy people and often don't realize if they are leaving someone out. They don't mean to do it, they usually just don't think about it. If you were asking for this info and they refused you then you should just ask them why. Too many families have problems because no one asks why. Don't assume you are the last to know until you find out from them.
2006-11-06 14:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tracy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's the same with me. is it cause you're the youngest? cause i think that's my problem. i either have to find out through someone that's not even a family member or i pick up stuff here and there and put them together and then go ask. it's weird. and that's the same with my friends too...last one to know. i dont think it's lack of trust unless you gave them reasons for not trusting you, but usually if you're the youngest they just think of you being the youngest. or maybe they don't want to burden you with things that you dont need to worry about.
2006-11-06 14:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is something deeper that there keeping and by keeping small things from you, you won't find out the real big secret that all really hiding, better to brush it off and move on with your life and someone else in it, and when something is said to you say thanks for the info!
2006-11-06 14:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are private and don't want you to give it out to a girlfriend or to slip. Maybe there are very important papers in the safe that don't need you to open the safe for yet..
2006-11-06 14:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by Dori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im always the last one to know in my family too.. like my uncle was cutting wood 2 weeks ago and the chain on the chain saw snapped and hit him in the face, i didn't find out till last night its a wierd thing that you may or may not figure out
2006-11-06 14:44:44 · answer #9 · answered by dark and demented little angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet ur the baby of the family? if so i dont think they mean to they just prob still think ur the baby and dont need to kow these things.
2006-11-06 14:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by klumzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋