She just had her 1rst chemo round out of 6 she needs. Even though her cancer was pretty bad it was found on time and was taken out. At first she was so happy about it, I mean about the successful operation, and about not having cancer in any other organ in her body. She was Grateful with God, believing it was a miracle come true. We had very bad days, but we pray so hard, and our prayers where heard. Her surgery was very successful, they took off almost 80% of her stomach and still she eats a lot, and she has gain weight. But since she was hospitalized for her chemo, she change so much, she is so scare, angry at God, cries all the time and she is just so mad. I love her so much, but I just don’t know how to help her, what to say to make her feel better. I’m very worried, because I know that if she doesn’t change, cancer may be back. Please tell me if there is a place in line that would give me the necessary tools to help her. Thank You.
2006-11-06 06:32:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
First off, my thoughts and prayers are with your sister and family. Your sister seems to be worrying herself so much that it is affecting who she is as a person. I'm not sure of the lifestyle your sister lived but this is part of the problem. Consider that at one time her days were filled with errands, household chores, possibly work, children and family. Her time was consumed with responsiblity. Now her life is probably completely different. Her days mainly consumed of thinking, worrying and more thinking. Her moods can be affected so easily because she has nothing else to consume herself with. A beautiful sunny day can even spoil her mood as she is unable to enjoy it. I'm thinking that maybe if she felt useful to herself and her family it might help her to pull through this. So maybe try to find ways for her to feel useful. Also try to find things to fill her time. Keep her mind busy. Ever hear of the saying " Idle time is the devils time". Because the devil loves to throw anger, doubt and fear within our heads. It is so true too. Your sister needs to be needed. So keep up with what your doing for her and try to help ease her mind.
I pray that you stay strong and pray for her health. Know that God never gives us what we can't handle. And know that your strength is admirable. You are managing to carry this all on your shoulders while still taking care of your family. God Bless you both!
2006-11-06 07:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the social worker at the hospital she was in she or he should have a list of resources for you like a cancer support or suvivor group so you can meet others going throught he same things and see how they are now thriving and surviving and start living a holistic type of lifestyle visit alternative medicine sites to find holistic health sites and communities ,these are very positive communities and the key to battling cancer is holistic wellness and positivity as well as any interventions cause all the medicine and good doctors of the world cannot fix your attitude or love of life and will to live that just does not come in a pill bottle and that is exactly what doctors recomend for depression another useless pill frought with dangerous side effects
2006-11-06 06:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her and tell her of all the good things that will happen. Look on the bright side. There was this story on GMA and Primetime about 11 cousins who all had their stomachs removed because they were at high risk for stomach cancer. Several of the girls were saying how great is was because they dropped from a size 12 to a size 2 and were eatting like crazy.
I have a support group site, http://www.shareyourstory.net.tc . You can find support there.
2006-11-06 06:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by christigmc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If SHE doesn't change? That has nothing to do with cancer coming back. That would mean that she had the power to cure it in the first place and you know that's not true. Yes, she needs help.....but only if she wants help. If she doesn't---YOU need help. To learn how to live with what is happening to her (which she can't control) and that you can't do anything about it. Just love her and stop trying to control how she feels about HER cancer. I've been there and I know all about the anger. I got into a support group. They have them for families, too. Find one.
Here:
http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/factsheet/support/support-groups
2006-11-06 06:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she should be useing some herbal things because my mom has cancer also in all most all of her organs she had it in her head and it's out what you need to buy is some black seed thats very ood it takes out the cancer and black clover i think thats the name she needs to take those and dont use suger because the cancer cell feeds on suger ok! use honey that helps and meat isnt good it takes about 1 day to degest meat so she doesnt need to eat to much meat about 3 ownce of meat and pork and stuff not goood chicken will do and tell her dont give up God is allways with her :( all you have to do it let her use those stuff i told you about they help alot and it doesnt make you sick like the cheamo my mom had like 7 rounds of cheamo but she didnt get sick so yeah i dont know but use those things they are very good heres a list of things you should buy
1: Echinacea Goldenseal
2:Red clover
3:Oregon grape
3 blue violet leaf
4:Fo-Ti
Tranfer factor
Those should help alot ok!
2006-11-06 06:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The very best people to ask how to help your sister are the nurses, doctors and therapists who work with her. They see it all the time and can steer you in the right direction.
I am a 5 year cancer survivor. I wish you and your sister all the very best.
2006-11-06 06:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my Aunt is dealing w/ her 2nd round of cancer
her hospital gave her a support group to go to w/
others that have also battled cancer, she said it was
such a blessing fr. God to have the support of others
from the group who could relate to what she was going through. Ask the Dr. or hospital about that & I hope they
have one also. God bless You & your sister
2006-11-06 06:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be with her and let her talk to you. Listen to her, no matter how hard it is for you and pray for her. i wish you and your family the best of success with her chemo treatment. try the below web site
2006-11-06 06:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by mgirl883 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to keep praying for her and with her. Go to the site below. I hope this helps
2006-11-06 06:35:35 · answer #9 · answered by Patti T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I’m very worried, because I know that if she doesn’t change, cancer may be back."
Oh ffs, do people really think like this?
2006-11-06 07:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋