For those who are anti-hijab...may i have ur attention plz :) ?

Question

Assalamu alaykom-peace be on u all :) .... i wish to open a civilized discussion with those who are anti hijab-head scarf,i welcome any civilized tolerant discussions even if they are against my point of view coz in Islam,one should respect other people's point of view,and i am sorry i reject any violation or offense towards my religion or my point of view...my brothers and sisters in humanity rememeber,the person's choice of words and his/her way reveals his real character...thank u all,bless u

Kindly,take a look at this poem :)

When you look at me
All you can see
Is the scarf that covers my hair
Because you're too full of fear
Mouth gaping, all you do is stare


You think it's not my choice
In your own ''liberation'' rejoice
You think I'm uneducated and subjugated
You're so thankful that you're free


But non-Muslim women you got it wrong
You're the weak and I'm the strong
For I've rejected the trap of man
Fancy clothes, low neck, short skirt
Those of the devices for pain and hurt
I'm not falling for that little plan


I'm a person with ideas and thought
I'm not for sale, I can't be bought
I'm me not a fancy toy
I will not decorate anyone's arm
Nor be promoted for my charm
here is more to be than playing coy


Living life as a balancing game- mother,
Daughter, wife, nurse, cook, lover
And still bring home a wage


Who thought up this modern ''freedom''?
When man can love'em and leave'em
Always jumping to a male agenda
Competing on his terms


Non-Muslim women you have your life
Mine - it has less strive
I cover and got respected
Surely that's to be expected
For I wont leave male criterion
I dance to my own tune
And I hope you see this very soon
For your own sake, wake up and use your sight
ARE YOU SURE YOU'RE RIGHT???

p.s : I dont mean any offense to any non-muslim woman...i am just pointing out that if u believe that u r free to wear whatever u like therefore i am free too...If u think its a kind of submission and humility then u r wrong..btw for the sister who asked me to use a hijabi avater,believe me i tried 2 find the most modest avater in yahoo...i want to point out again that i am not saying that hijabi women are better than anyone,i just said that we do cover coz we feel our bodies are precious and ppl should for example hire us at work for our skills,education and efficiency and not for our beauty :) feel free 2 email me at any time,i welcome any other opposing point of view...

Answer 1

If it makes you feel any better, there is a movement among some Christian women to wear head coverings. I do not wear one, but I respect those that do.

I have never thought that wearing hijab meant that a woman was subjugated and uneducated. Some of us Christian women have open minds.

Answer 2

Hi, thanks for your words. I read your poem.

I guess, when it comes down to it, it feels like you're setting up a false choice. You're saying either you wear the head scarf OR you wear short skirts and low cut tops. Hmmm. It's not an either-or thing!

You can dress modestly without flashing all your bits. You don't have to wear a head scarf at all. A head scarf is more a symbol of your faith than a real pracitical covering of all your bits. I live in the pacific NW - today I'm wearing a flannel shirt and jeans. Not an object of lust and I have the comfort of not having anything hanging off my head.

I guess it's a matter of equlaity still. A *MAN* doesn't have to wear a bunch of stuff to make women not lust after him. Neither should a woman have to go to those efforts to help the men out. Just dress in modest clothes that are comfortable. (And if Hijabs were comfortable, people would be wearing them for comforts sake and not for religion sake)

Answer 3

1) wearing modest clothing is just fine.
2) I have no problem with hair-covering and what is IMO excessively over-modest clothes in such way, to each their own.

now, Veils are a different point entirely. I have a harder time beliving that this is as voluntary a thing, AND its not a religious issue, but a public security one.

in the western world, in public spaces, you must be identifiable at a glance, and a veil prevents this, and that is a real security and safety issue.

even if the people who would authentically wear such things are of no threat... what about the people who use it to hide their identity for doing things that are unacceptable?

whats interesting I think is that islamic and western culture both have their issues of objectifying women in different ways.

Answer 4

Wait one...

Ok, I can answer now. I really couldn't care less what you wear on your head. If you prefer to hide yourself because in your culture women are supposed to be seen and not heard...Well, then that's your business. That's what you CHOOSE to do.

I've been to Iraq(and I know that Iraq is not the only Islamic country) and by the end of my tour I was seeing more and more younger women with out their hair covered. Why? Because suddenly they had a choice in the matter. And while I respect your choice to cover your head. I don't respect your use of a poem to in effect call "non-Muslim women" stupid. You implied that we have looser morals. You also implied that we are not respected because we choose not to follow your faith based hiding.

I think it's rude and hypocritical. You're the one that asked us to be aware of what we say, and acknowledge that our words are a reflection of our character. If I were to characterize you based on your words I would have to say that you have a very much holier-than-thou opinion of yourself. And that while you view yourself as objective, your poem reveals a very intolerant side to your otherwise "coy" demeanor.

Answer 5

Yeah slightly hypocritical i have to say...

I'm all for having an opinion, but you're assuming that people who dont wear the same clothes and have the same ideals as you are fearful of you? You're the strong and we're the weak?? where did that come from? I feel sorry for you.. especially on hot days (and i'm honestly not being rude when i say that).

I like being an equal, unrestricted, earning my own money, having the freedom to go about my daily business with the sun on my face. For me its all about embracing the culture in the country in which you are living in....

If we look at recent events in Britain where a Muslim teaching assistant was told to take her headscarf/veil off because children in the school couldnt hear what she was saying..... im 100% behind that decision. Its Britain, you live in our society so embrace our culture and respect our rules...

Answer 6

choice honey, thats what its all about, i get just as much respect, no matter what i wear, i dont feel im better than u, im just different, i believe live and let live, so do i want u to stop wearing what u consider "appropriate" no, i want u to be happy and let others be happy...but not all women that wear the hijab are respected, many are treated as man's slave with no voice no choice and used as mere reproduction devices only convenient when they are bearing sons, some women who dress in mini skirts and flashy tops are treated the same....in conclusion the clothes do not the women make

Answer 7

I just read the poem, and it says that if you don't wear the hijob, then you are up for sale. I'm sorry, but I am not up for sale, nor do I wear a hijob. I do have my own ideas, and I do have respect for my body. I do wear modest clothes, I do not show any part of my body for all to see that I do not wish them to see. I do not wear skirts or dresses that will show off my body to much, and do not wear shirts or blouses that are low cut. But I honostly do not see how a hijob will prevent a man from raping me if that is his intent. I do not put myself out there and say "Rape me" just because I choose not to wear a hijob.

Answer 8

In my opinion, you have the right to wear or not to wear as you wish, it is up to you.

But after I saw this. It scares me. I hope this guy and the like of him, will never be close to you or any ladies.

CONFESSION OF A RAPIST
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RVBJKzBX8EY&eurl=
He blames the woman for why he raped her. How so very sad. He can't read, and doesn't pray, and he blames her for his crime against her. How sad. Blaming the victim.

Up for sale!!!
http://www.sandmonkey.org/2006/10/30/the-eid-sexual-harassment-incident/
some of those women who got attacked were convered, some their head only, and others their face as well. what do you think that happened! and it was in a Muslim country on the first day of the Eid! it seems the cover didn't protect them much or gave them any respect either.

Do you think the non Muslim is weak! look at this!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EFrlQPvBmC0&mode=related&search=

It doesn't seem those women are so strong! are they!

You seem to fail to see that you are judging others based on what they wear, and you don't want them to judge you on what you wear! that doesn't seem fair. You cover and get respected, but what if you don't cover up, you will be disrespect by what you wear not who you are. Are you any different if you had your hair, or maybe your face as well covered! will you be any less of a Muslims if you decided on showing your hair! is the cloth what make a muslims, or what your are that makes you one!

P.S. I am not attacking anyone or any religion, I only hope you are strong as you say and believe, not just talk. Peace to You.

Yes, Ma'am I am sure I'm right. Don't judge other, so as other will not judge you. just a simple basic rule, you are judge other for not wearing the hijab, non muslims are not weak. We all have our strength and weakness. If covering your whole body is your strength, then do you have the strength not to wear if your chose to? I don't think you do. just an observation.

Peace to everyone.

Answer 9

How delightfully arrogant, how blissfully hate-filled. You make the CHOICE to wear hijab, but a woman who makes the choice NOT to is 'living for men, is meat to be displayed, deserves what she gets...'

So are you telling me no woman has ever been raped while wearing hijab? Are you telling me that a woman who doesn't deserves to be raped? How is it you equate the hijab with the objectification of woman at all?

It objectifies a woman more to tell her that she must cover herself so that she doesn't tempt men -- the men should d@mn well better control themselves.

Great Chaos, I can't believe this crap came out of a woman and I, a male, am having to point out what garbage it is!

And before you accuse me of just wanting to see near-naked ladies, I'm a 5.99999 on the Kinsey Scale of Homosexuality -- I MIGHT *THINK* about a woman IF me and her were the last people on the planet, but would still probably not play the Adam and Eve game.

Frankly, I'd be happier with women wearing hijab too, but that's their choice.

You said you wanted respect. Then GIVE IT. You make a choice to wear hijab, and ask people to respect it, then RESPECT THOSE WHO CHOOSE NOT TO.

Hypocrite!

Answer 10

Hi to you. You need this poem to make you feel better inside? We don't need this for confidence. We don't talk about freedom because we have it. We are individuals and dress in our own style. We dress the way we feel comfortable. We are not oppressed by religion and men. We are not getting treated as been the cause for men to sin. Modesty is not depending on what you wear - it comes from inside.
There is no religious need to wear the hijab.