i would like to know why she says she loves me but she wont have sex with me. we used to have a great sex life and one day about a month ago it just came to a screaching hault. i asked her why she wont but she says she doesnt know why.she says she really wants to be in the mood but she just cant get herself in the mood. keep in mind that we are not old or in our teens. i am 23 and she is 20. please help me.
2006-11-06 06:16:11 · 24 answers · asked by joshrusk83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well give her time. May be its something going on in her life, that you might want to ask her, and l;isten to her, and help her out!
May be she was raped(God Forbid)
May be its something you did during one of your sex sessions!
Dont ask her for sex now or why she cant have sex with you now,
Talk to her and dont be like without sex there is nothing that can happen between u 2!
She might even be pregnant and fearing to tell you! Or she might have done some one else!
To know the right answer, you gota sit down with her and talk to her. Listen to her speak and dont interupt.
2006-11-06 06:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by Geolove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being I am never "in the mood" I understand. Do you always make sure that she is completely satisfied? If not, she may be asking herself why should she. Try helping her get in the mood. I know that foreplay can go a long way in that department. Without it my mojo is a nogo. I would try talking to her and ask her if it is a personal decision she has made not to for some reason or is there something that you can do to help it along. Oh, and by the way, good luck.
2006-11-06 06:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by jonesin_am 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever considered more foreplay? I think most women loose interest because guys just go for it and don't really take the time to get a woman hot and heavy. If you know her certain "spots" go for that and make it a little more romantic. Get her worked up so that she wants you and tease her so she is begging for you. The only other reason she would turn you down is probably if she is cheating and I hope that's not the case.
2006-11-06 06:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by plainjane25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might be doing something she isnt supposed to be doing. Tell her that you cant handle this anymore, and just stop trying to have sex with her. She will eventually come on to you. If she doesnt that you just wait it out and do other things like watch porn and beat off in front of her. If she asks you why you are doing it, tell her becuz she isnt giving you anything, you gotta get the release somehow.
She might be just cheating on you with someone else and making it seem like she just cant have sex with you. or you can eat her out, that always gets women in the mood. I know when my bf does it, i am ready for some wood
2006-11-06 06:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by yagurlbubblez 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it sounds to me like there has been some event or series of events(probably totally unrelated to sex) in her life that she is having trouble understanding or dealing with or problems on the job or school anyway my point is the answer probaly is it is stress or anxiety related and dwelling on the sex issue will only make dealing with the root cause more dificult
if you love her then go with the flow it will come back just be patient
good luck
2006-11-06 06:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by whizbang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She knows why, but she's not telling you.
Did she catch religion? Interested in someone else? Holding out for a ring?
Keep holding her, and cuddling. Fondling too if she lets you. Maybe she's been more tired/worried. You have to find out what is bothering her. Get her a vibrator too so she can have some alone time.
2006-11-06 06:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by tbonz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and ask her why, listen to what she has to say and tell her what you have to say.
See if there is anything you can do to help her to get into the mood or over come whatever it is that is making her stop.
Good luck man.
2006-11-06 06:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Chris H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's pregnant. Not to scare you but hormones are whacked in the first trimester of pregnancy. Just a thought.
2006-11-06 06:26:46 · answer #8 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might be looking for some one else you just ask her or give him the time for this .may be she thinks you are the friend only for that reason and she does not like it . you just think she has the monthly period and wait for an other weak.
2006-11-06 06:25:24 · answer #9 · answered by creed 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, you did not do your part, you rushed her and she did not enjoy it. Send her to a Therapist quick before is get's worse.
If you think she will get better on her own you are dead wrong.
Some girls/women don't and never will like or enjoy or want sex.
2006-11-06 06:19:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋