What do you think about men who hit women?

Question

My bro in law abuses my sister,and she always goes back to him...I dont understand it,I think men who hit women are cowards,What do you think about men who hit women?would you hit a women?

I really want to take a bat to his skull,but I dont want to lower myself to his standards.plus,she would just stay with him because she has low self esteem,and three children by him.He is a rednck womanizer...

I really want to take a bat to his skull,but I dont want to lower myself to his standards.plus,she would just stay with him because she has low self esteem,and three children by him.He is a redneck womanizer...

Answer 1

Do you really know what goes on behind close doors? I am not saying your sister deserves to be hit, but I have seldom seen any conflict between two adults where BOTH sides are not adding to the conflict.

Our society has heard that 95% of all the abuse victims are women for so long they believe it. The problem is...it is far from the truth. The department of Justice states just under 40% of the victims are men...but there is not one dime of funding to protect any of them. There are women abuse shelters in almost ever major city and many small ones. There are three that I am aware of that help men.

Unbiases research indicates that women are as abusive as men and that they hit first most often.

Even with child abuse, society usually thinks of the father as the abuser. This is also far from true:


The Administration for Children and Families says:

In 2004, 45.6% of child victims were maltreated by their mothers acting alone or with other and only 19.5 percent were maltreated by their fathers acting alone or with other.


In 2004 “Mother Only and Mother and Other” was reported as perpetrator for 40.6 percent of child deaths and “Father Only and Father and Father and Other” accounted for only 15.6 percent.

Until we start looking at BOTH sides of this issue, we will not solve this problem. Many women get hurt in domestic violence when the man is tried of being battered and hits back.

Shattered Men has been addressing both sides of this issue. We accept both men and women who have been abused and who are the abuser so we can help heal the scars of abuse or to resolve present conflicts.

We also feel that we can not have a right relationship with others unless we have a right relationship with GOD first...this is the FIRST STEP which you can find in the first link below.

Please note also, that we have gotten it from many State Attorney Generals that they will NOT proscust women for domestic violence. I have seen this with my own son when he was assulted with a broom and had a heavy glass just miss his head and the police did nothing even though he had bruises to prove it.

Answer 2

I am married almost 44 years. My husband hit me once when we were married about four months. I told him right then and there, "If you hit me again, you can pack your bags and leave. I will not be treated the way my mother was treated."
He has never hit me again - physically.

Emotional and verbal abuse are slowly on the way out. But he is 66 years old now and I suppose mellowing through prayers.

He was in the Army at that time and we were suppose to be packed and ready to go to another location at anytime.

We lived like that for 2 months, and I think we were both a bit stressed out. But the call was cancelled.

One strike - a warning, two strikes - Do something to protect your self. Do NOT hit back. Then you are just as guilty. Do not talk about important issues when either of you are angry. The angry one does not listen. Wait, cool off or wait for the other one to cool off, and talk about the issue. not argue.

Answer 3

No, it is not ok for anyone to be hitting anyone else. If you dont like them, leave them alone. Noone has a right to hit anyone else. Men that beat women are very insecure, more ike a scared little boy. They have so many fears, of rejection, and of self even. Dont know who they are or where they are headed. and have no clue how to effectively communicate, so when they cant get their way, they hit. Takes no iq to do that. In fact, anyone that was secure and smart at all, would know if you hit someone, eventually they will hate you or themselves and may one day hit you back or worse. I pity these kinds of peopple, but dont hate them They all need God and to learn how to love again and trust and treat people. If a man truly treats a woman like a queen, and she is of God, and secure with who she is in Christ, she will treat him like a king back. How many men get that? and women stay for a number of reasons. I went thru all of this, and have heaard some say YOU MUST HAVE LIKED IT YOU STAYED. Do you think anyone actually likes abuse? I DONT THINK SO. But, you stay from fear, and you become so beat down you forget who you are, and you give up on self, your hopes and dreams, and just learn to try and survive. Been there. Done that, till God set me free. Many stay because they dont believe in divorce, like me. I still do not believe that is what God wants, but He doesnt want us to stay and be beaten either. Just leave and make your own life, ladies. But, I assure you NOONE ever liked it, tho some men can beat you down so bad that you actually begin to believe you have it coming. I never did think that, But I saw no way out, and gave up. Took a good Christian friend to point me to the source of all Hope, Jesus and a way out. Point them to Jesus, there is a way.

Answer 4

I think a man that hits on a woman does so because he's afraid to fight a man ! She's there and is just convenient to him ! He has to have some underlying cause for taking it out on her ! I do believe he needs to sit in jail for awhile ! Beating the p i s s out of him makes you no better than he is......so don't follow that advice ! Your sister needs to get out of the situation before it goes any further ! She probably does love him ....but....what good is her love doing ? If she really loves him,she needs to get out , find a safe place to go and forget the loser ! He will find another victim !!!!!!! Have your sister read some of these answers.....maybe she will realize that its not love that she going through.....its abuse......abuse that could kill her !!!!!!! Good luck !

Answer 5

Men who lay a hand or abuse their "women" and cowards and need a good beating them selves. In no place or time should it ever be ok for a man to hit a women. You should take you sister to some sort of intervention. Or take her on maury, so they can show her she is beautiful, can do better, and is worth more then that sorry loser.

Answer 6

well i think that they shouldnt be called men cause a real man wouldnt need to establish any kind of dominence over a woman. and they should all be thrown in jail they will never change no matter how much consuling they have. tell your sister it only gets worse! first they isolate you from ur family and friends, then they make you believe that no one else will want you and they are the only person you have, and then they pretty much have control of the abused person, try to have some kind of intervention with the rest of your family something needs to be done!

Answer 7

Those men are not men they are cowards and they need to get beat. i think maybe i am not the right person to answer this cause i went through this in my first marriage. There is no excuse for hitting anybody for any reason. So you see there is no reason for abuse period. good luck and god bless. Happy thanksgiving.

Answer 8

Men who hit women are losers. They think they can act however they want and blame someone else for their actions. Very irresponsible and issue ridden people. I am sorry your sister is in the situation, you should try to help her get out of it. Good Luck to you both.

Answer 9

1st of all, it is never right to hit women. He should be pushised and locked up in jail for a long period of time. Secondly, your sister in-law should leave him for another man who would treat her very well and respect. By the way, her husband should be in probation as well.

Answer 10

what do u think of a women who hit men? they do u know. there are lots of men that get abused but never report it. or they do and no one believes them. its just as wrong for women to hit men as a man who hits women.

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