Ok - this is a girl that I have known for a long time. We've known each other about 10 years. I was married (spouse died) but I've always had a crush on her. I finally got the nerve to ask her out, and she agreed, but because I was married before she said she never thought of me that way. I asked her out, and we had a great time together. We've been on 4 dates, and we seem to spark with each other – at least I feel them – shes very outgoing and we hold hands and such. We've kissed several times, and the kisses are great, but I do notice at the end of the night she tends to pull away from the kiss after a few seconds. . . We talk on the telephone, but the conversations are usually short . . . I'm just not sure if she's really into me or not. I sent her flowers Friday and she texted me to say thanks . . . While the acknowledgement was good, wouldn't a call have been more personable or am I just being over sensitive to this?
2006-11-06 05:49:21 · 16 answers · asked by InTheGroove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
While you have been admiring her for some time, this is all new to her. Things may be a bit too fast for her right now. Make sure you are not calling her too much. And hopefully this is an appropriate interval after your wife's death, especially if she knew your wife. She probably pulls away from kissing at the end of the night because she doesn't want to have sex yet and doesn't want one thing to lead to another. If she wasn't interested she wouldn't still date you. Just give it time and see what happens. What else can you do? If you tell her you love her after 4 dates, she will run. Give her time.
2006-11-06 05:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by tbonz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother kept a button box. As a young child, I loved looking at those buttons. Mom used to let me dump the contents on the dining room table. I loved matching buttons, counting button and lining them up in rows. I keep a button jar now. I'm not even sure why I save buttons. Maybe it's sentimental. When old shirts or blouses are tossed out, into the jar go the buttons. With the exception of replacing an occasional shirt button for my husband, I've never used any of them.
2016-05-22 04:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but it sounds like she only likes you for a friend and not even a sex buddy. You may want to talk to her about a possible long term relationship to see if she is interested but be careful... this may be too early to be having these thoughts/discussions and she may RUN for the Hills...
If you are OK with just being friends then continue but if you are looking for more than that and she is not, then you must move on...
2006-11-06 06:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by P!ss Ant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your feeling from her is that she's not that into you. When she told you in the beginning that she never thought of you in that way it wasn't only because you were married. If she was really into you she would have called to thank you for the flowers. Your senses are right.
2006-11-06 05:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might be a bit over sensitive but from what you say,she sounds strage..She might be confused as well..She already told you that she didn't look at you that way but she is kissing you wish shows interest..Don't stress her more,let things move by their own..You both need time..
Good luck!
2006-11-06 05:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by Elli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's not as into you as you are to her. She seems like she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. She seems like she likes you as a friend, but she could be cautious or afraid of what might happen. Just sit her down and have a good talking with her.
2006-11-06 05:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, she probably IS just having fun. But don't let that be the end of the world. Have fun too, but just realize that she isn't really going to be much more. Good Luck.
2006-11-06 05:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by TheOneVersion3.0 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should follow ur gut instead of ur heart only u really know .. but be sensible if she care for u really u would know it feel it and wouldn't question it
2006-11-06 05:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by Tyrone H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
4 dates? Give it time. She'll let you know what she wants. Otherwise just ask her straight out.
2006-11-06 05:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Egoli 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you're being over sensitive... she might like you but isn't ready yet... don't get your hopes too high up or too low down... :) even if it's hard, stay on the gray area for sometime..it helps :)
2006-11-06 05:54:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋