My boyfriend does not want to rent somewhere for us to live we have 2 kids and stay with my parents until we find something but it looks like he is not going to get anything worth living in. I am tired of waiting on him to make that move in getting me something which hasn't happen yet how can I discuss this issue with him that i am tired of waiting so long on getting somewhere to live and nothing is wrong with renting.
2006-11-06 05:43:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes I work a full time job :-) but I can't afford to get something by myself I guess I will have to get a part time job as well to afford to get my own apartment I will do what I gots to do I need my own space I just had a baby 2 months ago I don't need no drama. I will have to find a part time job I guess.
2006-11-06 05:53:07 · update #1
If you both have enough money for rent, why not rent!
Find the place and bring him along for a visit.
Take charge.
2006-11-06 05:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by tanyasiv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is hard. I understand that u want to start your life with him now and not be stuck at your parents and honestly i completley agree their is nothing wrong with renting. Especially if you already have 2kids. The financial burden of taking on a house is too much. You just have to keep trying. Keep talking to him. Tell him that you cannot live with the parents for much longer, and then set a timeline in which you would like to move. Let him know you want to find a decent apartment and if he still won't budge maybe u have bigger issues than u thought. by the way do you work? if not u should at least part time, that way putting up the money for the place won't all be on him, and he'll be able to take your opinions more seriously because you will have something to contribute to the project. good luck
2006-11-06 05:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by TR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay keyword in your whole question is boyfriend. That mean there is no ring on your finger, so what he says don't always fly. You have to think about your kids and then yourself first. If you want a place and have the funds to do so go get a place. He will probably try to be right behind you when you leave.
Is he going to buy you a house( not renting)? Does he have any alternative routes to not rent? Then you start looking for a place and figuring out how your going to pay for it. Leave his *** at your mama.
2006-11-06 05:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by Tarabeara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he's saved anything towards buying a house. If he actually has then I'd say just wait a little while longer. Now if he doesn't want more for you and your family then you go ahead and take the lead and get an apartment for you and your kids and tell your man to go live with someone in his family or pay the rent and move in at your place.
2006-11-06 05:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
are the utilities blanketed? in the event that they are then a 50/50 isn't so undesirable, regardless of the shown fact that in the event that they do no longer seem to be then upload all the expenses at the same time and divide then by potential of the share of earnings you the two make. i.e he makes seventy 5% of the earnings he will pay a minimum of sixty 5% of the expenses this way you the two nonetheless be waiting to pay for for foodstuff and private merchandise, besides as money to place into fee savings.
2016-12-28 14:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your money separate from his and get your own place. Tell him you're looking for someone to split the rent with and he has first choice. Get the money in advance. Tell him he'll either have to pay rent or child support.
2006-11-06 05:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you can have more sex if you have you own place. Either that or put your foot down and rent an aprtment on your own, he can move with you or without you, he needs to put his "pride" aside and be a man a provide for his family.
2006-11-06 05:47:29 · answer #7 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So why isnt he up to moving? "Communication is key" i heard that in a show once, and they are right. Sit him down and tell him that your side and ask for his feedback, and go from there. You may just have to make the move yourself, but make sure to include your boyfriend in your decisions. Good Luck
2006-11-06 05:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important fact of your life is marriage .First ask him to marry you , then try to help him to rent an apartment for the FAMILY.
2006-11-06 05:54:51 · answer #9 · answered by <<< sky >>> 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off never depend on a man or anyone for that matter to do anything for you maybe u should make that step on your own and i wish you all the best and keep ur head up
2006-11-06 05:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by macarthurproperties 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋