My GF has been going out these last few weekends with a group of her friends to clubs and bars. She has been told that she can bring some of her friends but she never askes me if I want to go. Also there is at least one guy in this group that likes her, she says that she ahs told him that she has a BF (me) and isn't intrested in anything, but I have seen the pics of her nights out and it looks like they are all "buddie buddie" with eachother. When I ask her about it, or see if I can go to she says that I don't trust her and it makes her really mad, and then she goes out with this group. I really want to believe her, but my gut just won't let me.
Am I just denying what I already know to be true, or am I over reacting to nothing?
2006-11-06 05:28:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think deep down you know the answer. I find it strange that she never asks you to go along. Once in a while you would think she would, especially if she doesn't have anything to hide.
2006-11-06 05:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much you trust someone, there's always that what if that runs through your mind. She has no reason for getting mad just from you asking if you could go. If it was really that big of a deal then she may have something to hide. And if you truly believe that something is going on with her friend that's a guy, you need to talk that out with your gf.
2006-11-06 13:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by girl_is_depeche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your gut telling you this because you really don't trust the kind of person she is, or is your gut telling you this because of the pictures? Do you want to go out with them because you are interested in hanging out with her and her friends or because you want to keep an eye on her. If you love her and trust her then you have nothing to worry about, if you really think she is screwing around then you don't need to be with her. Its hard to answer your question, because it's impossible for me to. It depends on you and what you feel. Think about the questions that I asked in the beginning and form your own opinion on what you think is going on. If you know she loves you and know that she would never cheat on you then that should be the end of it. No further wondering about it. But if you think she is shady, then let it go. But you may be overreacting.
2006-11-06 13:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like my hubby to come along when I go out with the girls, but there are never any guys that come along with us either. I would tell her the next time she goes out that you and your buddies are going out too. Maybe you can all hook up. Then meet up with her and her friends and see what happens. Why not? If nothing is going on you guys can all have fun together. If something is going on then I guess you can find out.
2006-11-06 13:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by toobusy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay heres the deal.. it sounds like she mite be playin ya.. n if she is getting mad and defensive about it.. then shes trying to cover sumthing up.. trust me i was the same way when i was cheating on a former bf.. if u really think shes cheating confront her and if she still denys it then tell her simply that if u dont go then either she cant or its over... if u truly believe that shes cheating trust me theres ways to find out and her getting defensive about it is a good sign... people with nothing to hide.. hide nothing and its true.. if it were me.. my bf would be the first person i ask to come along wid me!!
2006-11-06 13:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by short stuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intuition is a gift from God. Usually when in the bottom of your soul you feel something isnt right, it isnt right. If she adores you so much she wouldnt disrespect you with other guys and even just every now and then she would want to show the man of her life off to her friends. Then if was a girls night out why is she with other guys?
2006-11-06 13:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by naomi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be normal to feel that way---I know I would. Maybe, if you're close enough to some of her friends, go with them! You may just have a good time and the guy that likes her may really get the hint and send his affections elsewhere...BUT, if she balks and gets upset at you wanting to go, then I would do some self searching and decide what you want to do...
2006-11-06 13:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by Jen-Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People hide things for a reason.
If there is nothing going on why get mad when you want to hang out?
2006-11-06 13:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry if she didnt have interest in the other guy, she'd tell you sure, come along. Not every time, because people need their own space, but at least now n then. I'd be weary about that. it may be innocent but she may like the attention he is giving her.
2006-11-06 13:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by Lil Jello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be suspicious. If she is not cheating with this guy she should be like "yes please come with so you can see that there is nothing going on." Why wouldnt she want to hang out with you anyway? I would want my boyfreind to come out with me cuz when I drink I get all wishy washy and I just want to make out with him. LOL I think you are right to be suspicious. I think you should bring it up again casually to go with. Just say you are bored and it's important to you to meet her friends.
2006-11-06 13:37:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋