iv started dateing again and i seem to have lost the nerve to go ahead and tell women, im a parent with a five year old boy. even thou my son is a very happy and funny boy and will get along with anyone!
2006-11-06 05:24:59 · 22 answers · asked by RONNIE B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
right before your first date and if you had a first date then tell her as soon as you see her again
2006-11-06 05:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by Crazy Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better that you be open with your status & it would be a turn off if the lady learns it from somebody else. It means you are trying to hide something! Honesty is better, some girls would even be admiring you for that since ideally, it should be the mother who should be taking care of the child.
It is also best that whoever you date, introduce him to your son. You would know the attitude of the girl more when you do this. Definitely, your son is more important than anybody else. There are many woman you can date, but definitely there is only one son. He is irreplaceable.
2006-11-06 05:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single mother with two daughters so I know what you mean but you have to be honest and up front with people that should be one of the first things you tell someone before you ever go on a date. That way you don't waste her time or yours. Believe me I've had plenty of guys turn around and walk off in the middle of conversation once I mention being a mother. It gets very discouraging but would you rather get to know and like someone tell them you have a child and then have them leave? Maybe your stronger then I am but I wouldn't want to go through that.
2006-11-06 05:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a great opportunity to find the right person to be in your life. Your son is an important part of your life. So it should be a priority that you inform others of this in the beginning. Why waste your time with anyone who can't accept all of you? She will most likely appreciate and love your honesty b/c you will be different than all the other guys. Don't be afraid to be yourself and to be honest b/c if you win a woman's heart by dishonesty, what have you truly gained?
2006-11-06 05:35:46 · answer #4 · answered by RiAnn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should always be straight about having children in your life, the only thing is if you know that this person does not want children then I would break it off right away, but tell the person right away cause one day she will want to go out to the bars or to a restuarant and you cant cause your son is ill or is having a sleep over what do you tell her then, just come out and say that you have a child/children and that there will be times when you will not be able to attend with her in social gatherings!
2006-11-06 05:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before the actual date. If any relationship is to happen the basis and most fundamental aspect of any relationship is honesty. Just be your self and explain up front, "hey im interested in taking you out for dinner but before you give me an answer you need to know up front Im a single parent. " Give the person the opportunity to opt out if she wants before anything serious happens and someone ends up hurt. If she says no at least there is friendship still cause you never lied. Good luck
2006-11-06 05:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by cjpburgess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you go out on a date. That's something I'd like to know right up front. When I was single with a six-year-old son I told guys while we were just talking--before we even considered dating. I am proud of my son (was then, am now) and felt no need to hide the fact that he was a part of my life. Throw it on out there. They'll respect you for it or run. Then you know who to date.
2006-11-06 05:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2 year old daughter who i never see, but when i meet new woman i make sure they no i have a daughter. The fact i have her name on my arm and always wear short sleeved shirts or t shirts kinda reveals that. I have met girls who run a mile but the good ones see you for who u are and regardless of whether you have a son or not shouldnt matter. Hope this helps and have fun dating again :-) scott
2006-11-06 05:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by Skidley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sooner you tell her, the better off all three of you will be. The women you're dating might feel you're simply dating them in hopes of "landing" a new mother instead of a new wife if you don't tell them by at least the fourth or fifth date. And, remember, she's marrying YOU - not your son. But she should realize that he's IS part of the "package".
2006-11-06 05:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by dmspartan2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty is always the right policy. If you think that you will lose a date because of your son, what are you really losing anyways? While telling someone that you have a son may be awkward, you have to do it soon into the relationship so that there is no hidden issues that will destroy the relationship as it progresses. good luck.
2006-11-06 05:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by great gig in the sky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slip it in when you meet them. Mid conversation. I wouldn't try to explain or justify it. I would claim it proudly, therefore, If they don't like the fact that you have a kid, they can just leave you alone and it wouldn't matter. Just slip it in by saying "the other day my 5 year old son and I..." and most likely she'll respond by saying "oh you have a son?" Be proud, but don't uncover any baggage and keep it short and simple.
2006-11-06 05:32:11 · answer #11 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋