Is anyone else offended by greeting cards that say....?

Question

To my son and his family (insert whatever holiday here)?
I always take this as an insult, although I don't think it's meant to be one. More like insensitivity I think.
I mean, it's like I'm really only sending this card to my wonderful son but you other people live there with him too so I guess I better throw you guys (his wife and children) in there too so noone gets pissed. Almost like an afterthought. Am I being overly sensitive? Should I even give a rats behind?

The ones we get from my parents and his dad say things like to our wonderful family-etc.

Actually guys I meant the cards that are actually printed on the front that way-not who it's addressed to ;)
I just love stirrin' up the pot-!

Answer 1

I understand what you're feeling but it does seem trivial. I wouldn't get worked up over it. Monster-In-Laws can be a big fat pain in the butt and they almost always think the sun shines out of their sons butts. In my case the sun always shines out of his butt and my step-daughters butt, I'm just the one doing everything else to ensure that the sun keeps shining from the proper places. Heaven forbid I should expect any sunshine to warm my tushy!! LOL!! You could always create your own card that says "To that woman who gave birth to my husband".

Answer 2

I think they are just trying to sell the most cards by covering their bases. They cannot really do separate cards for son+wife, son+sig other, son+family, son+josephine, etc etc.
And to make it more general by saying to Family is even less palatable.
Sucks sure, it would be great if they made personal cards for everyone. But economically it doesnt make much sense (or cents I guess). Not to mention they try to offend the least amount of people.
I would just treat it as any other card, a nice sentiment that does not cover every possible arrangement. Also, what is written in the card is important. This is where they should write to you and your whole family.

Answer 3

I don't think you are being overly sensitive and I feel the same way you do. When I send a card to anyone on my husband's side of the family, I always sign the card with everyone in our family's name. This is to show that the card is from ALL of us. The same should be done when sending a card.

Answer 4

My wife and I have been married for 27 years. My mother in-law still sends cards that she personalizes in names to our children and my wife. I am not referring to birthdays, just general holidays. Funny thing is many many times my name is absent. So I guess in my case I would just rather see a card that said "To my daughter and family". Atleast that way there is a chance I was included.

Answer 5

You are being way too sensitive. At least they included you on the card- it could have just read "to my son" then you wouldn't even be a thought. Sometimes it is challanging to find the perfect card that says just what you want it to, plus has all the right names. Relax- or if you must stress about something find a better cause.

Answer 6

Nah. don't give a rat's behind.
I hate the cards that go on and on about how wonderful and fantastic and meaningful the person is.. bla bla bla. Um, nice, but I don't exactly think my brother is all that great. It's hard to find a card that just says Happy ___

Answer 7

I think you are being too sensitive. Would it make you feel better if they said "To John and Jane" or "To Mr. and Mrs John Doe"? If so speak up. You could even send out address cards that have the name how you want it and the address. You can say something like "please address all mail to......".

Good luck and if it doesn't change then don't sweat it. There are bigger issues than whether someone calls you by name or by "my son's wife".

Answer 8

oh... you're one of those wives lol

its probably intentional. i mean intentional that some cards are designed for different situations, parents in law that dont like, but are polite to a daughter in law is a very common situation.

i cant stand my girlfriends family because they all talk **** about me.

they dont include me in their cards and its cool with me.

so im not offended by a greeting card- unless it has a bikini hottie on the front and i open it to see the rest of her and its some old lady.

Answer 9

everyone get cards like that and they don't take offense. most peope will address the card to their family member or friend and put "and family" on the end to let the other people they think about them too. just be glad to get holiday cards

Answer 10

Yes if you and the friend is friends. Now if this is your son's friend, than it would not bother me. What about this...My sisters and I are all grown and we live in different houses and we get one card inviting us to a party or something? Now that's something to get p.....off at. I tell everyone and anyone that wants to send me a card to something...to send it directly to me with my name on it. We are not kids!!!!!!!!!!!!