My boyfriend is Indian and I'm Mexican.....?

Question

Will his parents like me?... I know it's a silly question to ask but I just wanna see what your answers will be since Im guessing most of you on here are Indian? I could be wrong though.. He's 27 and Im 22.. If I were to marry him, IF, would I have to wear anything traditional in his culture or something? I know I should proabably ask him but again I just want to see your guy's feedback... and last, is there anything I should do, say, prepare myself for? any feedback is welcome.. Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

Hey gal. Well let me tell you something, you are not alone. I'm also in the same situation. I'm South African having an Indian bf. The reason why we sometimes ask these questions is because of the way they talk about their parents and how strict their country, religion is, so u end up doubting things.
Well myself I believe things will work out if it is meant to be.
The most important thing is to respect his culture, his parents and don't 4get that no1 can change either of u guys.

If you do respect his parents, I'm sure they will like you unless if they are stupid. Don't change your culture. You may wear anything traditional in his culture just to surprise him or just to make him feel proud of you, but don't change your style. Be yourself, If he's not happy with what he sees then you can leave.

What you can do is to research about India, lifestyle, movies, movie stars, music,food, learn one recipe just to surprise the family.
Goodluck on your relationship, hopefully it will workout as you wish.

Answer 2

Since you have already made up your mind,first of all I welcome you to India, the land of Mahatma known for its compassion and nonviolence.There may be slight resistance in the beginning in your acceptance. However the bonds of love with in the family are so strong, they will all respect the boy's wish and accept you with open heart. Then it would depend on you how you would treat each one of his family. It would be great if you can wear the traditional sari during the marriage ceremony. These days every thing is ready made. You need not worry. All things get organised in a jiffy. You may not have the jewelry. You will get some from the parents of the boy. Some you may need to buy. Good luck!

Answer 3

You are from Mexico, you should know better that anyone that being indigenous or Indian, does not necessarily mean you have to have plume in your head! In a way you are not having respect for his culture, would you ask the same if he were from France? I really do not want to sound rude, I am Latin like you, therefore I consider you are a sister, but your doubts show you have prejudges.

Any relationship with someone of a different culture needs an extra effort, you and him will have to make sacrifies, but the first thing is to respect the each other culture, and trough the person you love learn about it. He can learn about your beatiful mexican culture by asking to you and the same goes for you.

You should not be worried about preparing for something, ask him, talk to him.

Amiga mexicana, no tengas miedo de un indígena norteamericano, él está más cerca tuyo culturalmente de lo que tu crees ¿acaso el nombre de tu amado país no es indígena? No tengas tanto miedo de lo que todavía no conoces, porque tienes las posibilidad de conocerlo. Suerte.

Answer 4

My husband and I have been married 15 years and where high school sweethearts. I am hispanic (father is from mexico) and he was born in indonesia. I will say we've had heated debates about religion me being Christian and him being Muslim but really our relationship hasn't changed. It can work out but BOTH of you will need to embrace each others cultures. That is the only way it will work. But to me it sounds like a nice little combo. Best of luck to you two. Vote:Best Answer please.

Answer 5

well I look like Indian and all my classmates are indian. So let me tell you about Indian culture.
His parents may not accept you if they are in India. Most of them tend to be shallow, the old generation ofcourse, as is even here.
And what makes you think most of us here are Indians? That is the if not the dummest, is a dum thing I heard.
But anyways, you both should expect some kind of strangeness since you both are from different culture. You don't have to wear like Indian, If he wanted to date someone who wears the silk, he could have dated Indian. So he probably is interested in the whole package you had to offer, including your dress and style. So be yourself.
And ignore the shallow minded people.
By the way how do you find that awefull smell?

Answer 6

Hey don't worry. Generally we Indians are verymuch accomodative.... so you will be most welcomed as bride of an Indian.

If you marry him whether to wear traditional..... it all depends upon you as long as you love your B/F it is OK & if he like to see you in that traditional dress & you also like then there is nothhing wrong. But it is not a compulsion at all. It all depends upon which religion your B/F belong to....

Generally, we Indians strongly believe that, marriage is an important stage in ones life & true marriage takes place only once in life your life time (unlike westerns where its childs game) therefore it has lot of importance. But it is ulimately you both have to decide.

You might be aware, many girls have spent HUGE sums on their bridal dress but truely speaking, it is not really necessary. Many simple marriages takes place in rural part of India with simple dresses.

I don't know what religion your B/F belong to? But if you would like to know about Hindu marriage, you may visit
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hindu_marriage
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_in_Hinduism
and get some essance of it.

Best of Luck & wish you Happy married life with Indian

Answer 7

Why don't you ask your bf himself.In every country and every state there are people who are capable and strong enough to differ from the stereotypes.Unless you meet his parents and try and understand them with your own and your bf's eyes put together ,your trying to find out about stereotypes from others will only generate misunderstanding in a relationship which has potential to be very happy one.
Do not ask others whether they want you to wear a traditional Indian dress but ask yourself whether you will be open to wearing his country's traditional dress if so desired.Be honest to your own self.

Answer 8

that's good dear 4 r lucky girl that u have indian bf ,he will be wd u ur whole life ......indians r very loving so don't worry about anything ....n traditional dress u will like them im sure some times u can wear those dress.....it depends why don't u ask all this from ur bf he will tell u every thing .good luck bye.

Answer 9

There is no such thing as to hell with race and religion, they matter to people and that's why they exist. Hear it from someone who is from there, I am going to be honest with you: His parents' opinion matters a lot to him and chances are that he won't marry you without their permission and chances are that they won't approve of you. There is a lot to a culture than just dressing up like them. If you can change yourself completely than there is a chance, but do you want to?

Answer 10

Hable "quero mucho" a Madre Y Padre de usted Nobio...Personas de India mui bueno sinyorita como Mexico..Buenas Suerte! Amiga.......